I got dumped yesterday by my first real girlfriend (of 8 months) I know its early to be looking but i'm worried cause my new job I work on my own for a week on week off. A lot of my m8s are stoners and dont bother socialising in pubs/clubs etc and just have a tight nit group so we dont meet new pepole.
Are there any good dating sites that dont cost a fortune? Or in fact free so you can e-mail people for free and see how you get on. I have thought of joining sites before, but if the person who tickles your fancy isn't a member they cant mail back! So seems like a waste of money joining. I kind of feel I want a relationship again as it will take some of the pain away.
I'm 23 but dont really enjoy clubbing, well I do when i'm there, but im not the sort of person to just go and chat someone up and I just can't dance so I tend to stick away from the club scene. Im worried it may take a long time to get over this girl, especially as I have a lot of time on my hands.
2006-12-07 04:15:36 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
there is someone for every one keep looking you will soon find someone
2006-12-07 04:18:15 · answer #1 · answered by Michael D 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Avoid dating sites. Most of them are full of people who can't get a date in real life FOR A GOOD REASON.
Give yourself time, see if you meet a girl at work, or randomly in the supermarket for example. Or start playing a sport or any other activity you enjoy or take an evening class, you might meet people that way. Don't ask a girl out right away, just start a bit of small talk at the bus stop or anywhere random, try not to seem to desperate.
Clubs and pubs aren't the greatest places to meet the love of your life, most people there tend to look for quick no strings fun anyway, plus if you're not into clubbing or dancing at all and you find a girl in a club, chances are you won't have too much in common anyways.
Good Luck! You'll find someone eventually!
2006-12-07 04:23:20 · answer #2 · answered by Seitanist 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Best advice: Don't go find the rebound g/f just yet. Go have fun. Really, the next g/f you get, if it's too soon, will not last and thus you will just end up broken hearted again. Then that will start the whole rebound search again. the reason why? because you will always compare the rebound to that first real g/f or even love. then she feels as if you want her to change and it's all really rather upsetting. go places, have fun. Let a girl find you in a place where she can see you in a truly happy state, having fun, and smiling and laughing, good luck, hope you find the girl that can sew your heart back together.
2006-12-07 04:22:03 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mate you have to forget about her.... easier said than done i know. There are many more things you can do, surround yourself with your mates and just get out and have fun. That is well important at this point try and have fun - cinema, a new hobby (e.g - martial arts, a language, something you have always wanted to do). You could even start going to a gym, running, swimming - exercise is good to a)keep your mind off things, b) as a release and gives you time to think with running and stuff, c) you'll sleep better. Don't worry about getting a girlfriend, the best nights ive had when i was single was going out with my mates for a laugh and not even thinking about meetinga girl.....it always happens when you least expect it. Good luck man. Gaz
2006-12-07 04:48:30 · answer #4 · answered by Gazza1980 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know how you feel mate, that has recently happened to me, i thought I had found my one but after nearly 2 years she dumped me for someone else and after 2 months of being single, things are starting to look up and I am only 19. At first i tried to fill the emptiness by going to my local pub and chilling with people I can talk to. After that I learnt about the miracle that is MySpace, its a good way to begin to meet new people in your area.
You can create your own page by visiting myspace.com and go from there. Alternatively there are also vists like faceparty.com and bebo.com (this is a good site to meet old school friends on)...
...always remember though mate, that tomorrow is anoher day to find that someone special.
If you wanna check me out you can visit myspace.com/allhailcraig and ill add you as a friend if you like. just send me a message when you sign up. Look forward to hearing from you!
Craig
2006-12-07 04:35:09 · answer #5 · answered by Craig Johnson 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What makes you feel you should move on straight away........you dont wanna be on re-bound huni!!!
try pick up a healthy hobbie (i suggest indoors as its winter and C-C-Cold!!At least it is in Ireland)
Really im not into clubbing either never have been im 21!! but it doesn't make you a recluse it just means its not your think!!!
Really sweetheart, dont rush!!
Maybe if you REALLY think it would be a good idea maybe the likes of meeting friends of friends ect that can work
Best of luck either way
2006-12-07 04:21:07 · answer #6 · answered by rosa_govan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well who says you have to get into a relationship right away give your self a breather don't be so anxious about tomorrow it's good to plan but you just got dumped yesterday breath do something you never do not necessarily meeting girl but get involved in a hobby and when you least expect it you will meet someone.
2006-12-07 04:20:26 · answer #7 · answered by calimexgirl!! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Jumping straight into another relationship is not a good way to get over it.
Be single for a while, get over it and only when you realise you are going whole days without thinking about your ex should you pursue another relationship.
Enjoy being single, get into some new things, rearrange your life.
2006-12-07 04:18:56 · answer #8 · answered by abluebobcat 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ummmm ok first of all u just got dumped to you feel like this. but just relax you dont need to join no dating line. just be youre self and youll be fine. hey you can meet youre soul mate at mc donalds and not even know it.. just take it one day at a time.. youre young you have a long way to go.
2006-12-07 04:20:11 · answer #9 · answered by Theresa R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude take a break for awhile have fun socialize dont b all desprate just go w/ the flow and somone will come to u!!!
2006-12-07 04:17:27 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't rush things esp... after just breaking up or you're sure to have some of the repeat problems of before.
2006-12-07 04:18:24 · answer #11 · answered by Michelle M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋