if you had a partner that has told lies and they in return get mad cuz you dont trust them what would you....?

Question

think about that? what if they tried to get you to trust them on their terms? as if they wanted you to trust them right away. would you eventually one day trust your partner one day? it takes a while to start trusting again. how long do you think is to long for a partner who broke trust have to wait. well i ask becuz my ex bf wanted me to start trusting and got mad cuz i didnt. he has lied so much. well i was just curious. i didnt trust him when we were not together. he has given me good reason not to. he may try and come back to me one day im pretty sure of it. but since i cant trust him he i should just make sure he doesnt come back cuz he didnt actually try to regain my trust. he thought buying me things would fix that, and it didnt . is it true once a liar always a liar? how do you feel about a man who lust at other women and already has a woman? plz give me your opinon on these questions. oh yeah and when i say lust i mean gawking while im standing there seeing him do this.

Answer 1

wow i went through something similar to this... i got together with my (now husband) when i was 18... he lied from the get go... about his age about drugs about little stupid things he had no reason to lie about.... he would hide porn around the apartment... when i was pregnant (with my first child) he told me once "yeah i look at other girls, i stare at them like a dog in heat" (remember i was also pregnant ...) what kind of thing is this to say to a woman?....anyway we were together for 4 years and then after hurting me... (he once said he would prefer to join the army more then be with his family... and no not FOR his family) well i started seeing someone else after 4 years i was with this new guy for almost 2 years ..... after we broke up me and my ex talked he was out of the state so we did a lot of talking my daughter was staying with him at the time....so anyway we decided to give it another try that was about 2 1/2 years ago.... i STILL have a hard time really trusting him even though i actually LOOK for things and dont find anything.. he has grown up alot.... but iin answer to your question .... yes it can take a long time.... he gets upset at me sometimes for not trusting him completely but some things just run to deep... you know? so i dont know if i really answered your question...lol... but i know how you feel!!

Answer 2

Nope I wouldn't trust them again ever. Trust shouldn't be a problem in a relationship but if it is its because somebody is hiding something. I always say, "Secerts and Lies Destroy Relationships and Lives" and if they are constantly lieing to you then they are hiding something something not worth trusting you to. The relationship should be open and honest and if they have constantly lied to me then how am I supposed to trust what else comes out of there mouth. Yes it is very true that once a liar always a liar. If he is lusting over other women then he doesn't want to be in that relationship and its totally disrespectful to the woman in the relationship if he can't respect her then he will never respect anything.

Answer 3

Hello! Good evening! There's an english proverb that says "A leopard cannot change its spots".. Once a person is like this, it is almost impossible for people to change in a relationship. Age doesnt matter. ITs pretty clear cut that he doesn't respect your feelings nor give much thought to your feelings when he had those reactions towards females in your presence. Its time to take a break. Go out and have fun. Take up new hobbies, new sports, have meals with friends or catch up times with old friends. Do something that you like or have been wanting to do for very long. You have suffered for too long, gal. You should get out and start life afresh. You deserve it, gal! One misconception though. Do not go into a relationship thinking that you can change the other party. Most often, the person who has this thought will end up feeling very depressed and sad. Please do not have that thought. Having sex should be when both sides are wiling. If one party is unable to have sex, then the other party needs to be understanding. Remember, 3 main important fundamental things in order for a relationship to be successful.. Trust, Love & Understanding. Good Luck with your new life, gal! You deserve it!!

Answer 4

Trust is everything. Its also importatnt to realize he isn't angry because you DON'T trust him. He's angry because he has been caught and CANNOT be trusted. In other words, burst his bubble and you're suspicious of anything he tells you. But, you reap what you sow.
He's given you just cause to doubt. Although you may eventually have some trust it will never be the same for some time. But to hell with it...if he's carrying on like that because of HIS screw up then you do not need a lying, sneaky and sulky little boy in your life.
Cut this clown loose once and for all. You certainaly can do much better. Leave him to some fool out there who doesn't seem to care she's lied to. You'll be better off for it.

Answer 5

You know you can't trust a liar. If a guy is lusting after female in your face you can only imagine what he is doing behind your back. The bottom line is make him show some respect while you are around and don't worry about what happens behind your back. I'm trying to be more the like the "guys" and it's so much fun. They don't care about anything and by the way "gifts" are great.

Answer 6

If you have a partner that tells lies and gets mad because you dont trust them why the hell are you with this person. If you can not trust someone 100% move on!

Answer 7

Regaining trust has no time period. It may take days, months, or years. depending on how bad the person(who has the problem trusting) was hurt. As for me i give people a certain basic level of trust. But, beyond tat you must earn my trust. If you're b/f hasn't done anything to earn your trust, then don't feel guilty. Forgive him? yes!!! don't hold on to unforgiveness. Obviously he has to show you that "YOU" are the apple of his eye. Therefore if he can't do that, move on. But regainging trust takes time, and yu have to be patient...We get upset when people disappoint us b/c we put unrealistic expectation on them.

God Bless

Answer 8

If he is gawking at them while you are there, what is he doing when you aren't? If you don't trust him there is no reason to be with him. Why put yourself through torture or maybe even humiliation?

Answer 9

Trust should never be a factor in a relationship.

Answer 10

He sounds like a complete loser. I wouldn't stay 1 minute with a jerk like that.