me and my boyfriend have been going out for 8 months on the 15 of this month. and im always with him(he dont mind) but when he goes to his friends or uncles house i get man. and i kno i shouldnt because he has a right to see other people like that. and he invites me along but i dont wanna go. and he gets so mad at me because if hes over his uncles house i would call over there and yell at him. i kno i shouldnt be like this and i dont wanna be but i dont kno how to change.i wanna be more nicer and a better girlfriend but how?
2006-12-07 03:54:49 · 12 answers · asked by little_attractive_kitty 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
First off...learn to like yourself! You should compliment another person not complete them. Sounds like you need to improve your own self-worth and know that you are beautiful inside and out!
2006-12-07 03:57:34 · answer #1 · answered by brightstarrs7 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think of it this way. What if you were the one being controlled and yelled at? What if your boyfriend was the one being jealous? How would that make you feel? You need to put yourself in his place. Don't yell at him for visting family and friends after he's been nice enough to invite you. If you don't want to go it's not his problem it's yours. It sounds to me like you have some sort of insecurities about yourself. Maybe you feel like he might go out and cheat on you instead of going where he said he would. I doubt thats the case but it sounds to me like you need figure out what's going on with you and not take it out on your boyfriend. If you keep controlling him things will most likely end up done. You could eventually end up without him.
2006-12-07 12:13:23 · answer #2 · answered by mrd1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to learn to let him go off to hang out with other people. There is no reason to yell at him when he goes off to someone else's house, especially when he invites you too. If he just leaves and he knows that you don't like going then maybe you can yell at him. Try to do something that you both like and will both enjoy.
2006-12-07 11:58:14 · answer #3 · answered by steve w 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's a bit controlling, yes. You've been invited there too, so you really have no reason to be mad at him whatsoever. Sounds like you have a jealousy and self-esteem issue. This is not worth yelling at him about...he's done no wrong, from what you say. It's your issue...not his.
2006-12-07 11:59:06 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well hun i used to be like that and all you have to do is stop. if he asks you to go with him to his friends or uncles then just go or tell him the truth that you dont really want to go. trust me i kno i used to live with a guy and i used to do the same thing to him and onistly it pushed him away and he ended breaking up with me. if you dont want that to happen to you then you must change it took a break up to open my eyes now its your time to or youll lose him. also if hes with his uncle theres nothing to worry about as long as hes not at another girls house then i wouldent worry about it. and beleve me you would most deffently would want to let your boyfriend have friend time. just like if you were to have time with the girls and also if hes asking you to go then that means theres nothing going on. wow girl in respect you need to cool down and take it slow ok. good luck and marry christmas!**
2006-12-07 12:12:42 · answer #5 · answered by lizz 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give him space away from you occasionally, or you'll end up pushing him away and losing him for good. It's as simple as that. The fact that he wants to do something without you every once in awhile just means he has a healthy attitude about your relationship. Stop being obsessive!
2006-12-07 11:56:40 · answer #6 · answered by I hate friggin' crybabies 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are too controlling. It would be one thing if he was hanging out with another chick, but he's with his uncle, for God's sake! He's got to have a life apart from you - and they were his family long before he ever met you. Eventually, you will drive him away from you - and I know you don't want that. Let him have his family time.
2006-12-07 11:57:08 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Man -- you need to get a grip on yourself. Calm the heck down. Your lucky the guy still wants you around.
2006-12-07 11:56:36 · answer #8 · answered by JB 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
men hate nags. believe me i have 2 older brothers and i was a nag myself. what goes on in his uncle's? just go with him and be confident and be nice to him while your there in front of everyone.
2006-12-07 11:59:11 · answer #9 · answered by just me 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Controling is an understatement girl! You're downright nasty! Change your attitude or you'll lose him!
2006-12-07 12:23:18 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋