I have a boyfriend and he has been asking for sex from after the first or second week. I am just not ready for that should I dump him or should I give it up for him?
I am Still a vergin
2006-12-07 03:51:44 · 34 answers · asked by Kare Bear 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sweetie, don't have sex with him if you are not 100% sure that you are ready. Sex is something that you should do for yourself, not just for another person.
2006-12-07 03:53:46 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok first off how old are you? Doesn't matter... no you should not "give it up" if you are not ready and or comfortable. If this guy is being a jackass and can't get that through his damn head have him hit the bricks.
You are a woman of real value, and if this guy can't see it then the next guy will, you deserve to be treated with dignity and respect don't settle for anything less.
Now if you have been dating this guy for 6 months or more, and are over the age of say... 30 then you might consider "giving it up" just for your own personal experience... but... somehow I doubt you meet either of those requirements... so I say if your not ready he can wait. And he should understand that and if he doesn't have the common ******* decency to do so... then drop him like a hot rock.
Good luck and let me know how this turns out.
2006-12-07 03:56:17 · answer #2 · answered by Teclis98 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dump him.
If you're not ready for sex and he's been pressuring you since the beginning, realize what he wants: the free use of your bodily orifices. That's it. He doesn't care about what you want or need. That is no way to lose your virginity.
Dump him and find a guy who gives a crap about you before you take this step. You can only give away your virginity once. Make it count.
Think about it this way. Imagine someone told you that you could only go on one roller coaster ride in your entire life. Now, you're at an amusement park and some guy is pressuring you to go on this particular roller coaster just because he wants you to. He doesn't care that you are not too thrilled with this ride, because he wants to go on it right now. Would you do it or would you tell him, "No, I want to see the other roller coasters out there before I make up my mind."
2006-12-07 03:58:30 · answer #3 · answered by Karen L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's just like the old saying goes.... "True Love Waits".
You shouldn't hang around if he's been doing this to you and won't stop.... especially since the first or second week. That's horrible! You are still a virgina nd that is a precious thing to have. Pushing you to have sex is demoralizing you and disrespecting you. You deserve so much better and can get someone much better.
DEFINATELY...... DUMP HIM. AND SOON!
2006-12-07 03:57:56 · answer #4 · answered by shortnspunky 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm the only person who is going to say this, but If you love him and he Love's you enjoy the sex and the time you have with each other, just make it more fun on your part. Remember time dose not take life for granted anything can happen. If you love him and he loves you enjoy the time you have with each other and talk to him about it, but what ever you two do just don't yell at each other over the matter because it can damage you relationship.
2006-12-07 04:02:01 · answer #5 · answered by Johnny 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to be careful when you accuse him of "only wanting sex". Most guys want sex, just like most girls do, it's natural. HOWEVER, if he pressures you into having sex with him LEAVE. If he is just attracted to you and displays a "normal" interest in sleeping with you, reconsider.
If you don't feel ready, don't have sex with him yet. You have to talk to him. Tell him how you feel, tell him you're not ready yet and that you want to wait. If he loves you he'll wait, if he gets upset, it's time for you to go.
2006-12-07 04:06:46 · answer #6 · answered by Seitanist 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dump him...If he is not willing to wait for more than a week before asking you for sex than you deserve better. Virginity is something you want to hold onto until you find someone truly special whom you care about to give it to. Not some +sshole who wants it as soon as you start dating.
2006-12-07 03:56:33 · answer #7 · answered by joker:P 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't do it! You will regret it. You sound like your in it for something more so if he will not meet you on that level, then move on! It's better to wake up the next day- heartbroken, then to wake up heartbroken and violated.
If he still insists then you just tell him- sure. then explain to himall the proper things that are associated with it- marriage and children. Make sure to have a rock in your hand, so when he starts running, you can hit him in the head.
2006-12-07 04:14:33 · answer #8 · answered by ConstElation 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well Care bear,You already answered this question when you said your not ready.If your not ready,your not ready.Having sex at this point would be a HUGE mistake and would complicate your life unbelieveably.
By being true to yourself,you'll maintain your virginity,dignity,and most important self respect.
2006-12-07 03:58:22 · answer #9 · answered by Mark K 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dump him, if all he wants is sex, then he only want to use you as an object. No woman are objects, they're human and they've got morals. If a man can't respect a womans morals, than he really don't deserve her.
2006-12-07 03:59:37 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋