Do you think our relationship will last or fizzle out?

Question

It was a relationship that started off on a lie. He didnt tell me he had a girl until probably 3 months into the relationship. 6 Months later he was still seeing and having sex with his ex even though he said our relationship was serious and he didnt have those types of feelings for her anymore. I found out from a friend and not really from him. He would always hint that he was feeling a bit confused and sometimes the best thing for him to do would be to leave. I let him stay because he said he loves me and I didn't want to lose him either. I also cheated, kissed a guy at a club and confessed. He forgave me. It's nearly 9 months later. I've met his family, he's met mine, we spend a lot of time together. Do you think this relationship has the potential to last, even though it was started on a lie and even though he's been stepping out on me for months while he tries to resolve his issues with his ex? Or will it end? Sometimes I feel he's with me because I have my own place and he doesnt

I guess I was hoping that we could overcome all of this. I saw what he was doing, I saw what I was doing, but I tried to convince myself that we could make it work. And I was halfway hoping that he would finally come and confess to me instead of always hiding his true feelings. Instead of hiding the truth. It's kinda why I even stepped out and cheated, and at times I'm tempted to do it again. Kinda like tit for tat. I realize that this is not a healthy type of relationship no matter how much he says he loves me and shows me that he loves me. I think his ex is just smirking and betting to see when this relationship is going to fizzle out just to prove her own point that this man is nowhere close to knowing what he wants. I feel at times he wants to protect her more than he wants to protect me and my feelings. He keeps running whenever she calls for help or company, because he feels obligated to do that. I can't figure him out

Answer 1

I think you deserve more respect that what he gives you.
You have to be the leading lady in your own life.
He may say he's confused, but why should you wait around to see if he chooses you? You should be with someone who knows that they want you. You say you don't want to lose him.... what is there to lose if he is cheating? You just don't want to lose what idea you have of what he could be to you.

I say give him some space, tell him to leave to figure stuff out if he is soooo confused.

Answer 2

Without counseling AND both of you stop the cheating, the relationship is nothing but phoney. Usually, relationships that start off with a lie, do not last. Truthfulness, Honesty, Communication (yep, a big one here), and a Sense or Humor are some important keys to a relationship. If you cannot be honest with your man or woman, what's the point.

Answer 3

I think that this relationship will probably fizzle out. Its hard to say though. Maybe he can change but how can u be with a man who you know is sleeping with another woman and is confused about the relationship. For your hearts sake, get over him and ditch him.

Answer 4

HELLO YOU JUST ANSWERED YOU OWN QUESTION. HE HAS NO WHERE TO GO AND FOR SOME REASON CAN'T STAY WITH THE EX . SO UNTIL HE CAN FIND A PLACE TO STAY HE WILL BE TAKING ADVANTAGE OF YOU . AND SINCE YOU LET HIM , HE WILL CONTINUE TO DO SO .

Answer 5

All i had to read was ~ the first few words and i can answer ths for you ~ IT WILL FIZZLE OUT

Answer 6

I think you two need to separate and get your lives together.

Answer 7

wont last- hes just taking advantage and eventually ur'll c it

Answer 8

Girlll, dump him