im in love with one of my best friends but i was stupid and broke up with him b/c i was scared that he was going to leave me b/c of something personal that happened between me and him. he got a new GF the next day to "cover up the wonds" of me leaving him. i cryed my heart out because i wanted him. now its been 4 months and him and "her" arnt together any more. he says he loves me back as only a friend and i dont want to be just that. today he got really pissed durning 2nd pd and i went chasing after him and finally found him. he was telling me he didnt want to talk about it and he kept pushing me out of the way and we both almost started crying. then i saw him after class and hugged him and told him that i will always love him and be there with him no matter what. but i dont know what to do. hes my life. i have even honestly tryed many times to kill myself but i then stop because if i died then i wouldnt have him in my after life. i need someones help.
2006-12-07 03:48:22 · 6 answers · asked by gods darker wing 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Killing youself is not the answer, you have told him how you feel. He probably doesnt know what to do...you need to make it repeatedly known that you love him. He is probably afraid that you will dump him again and cannot handle it, make sure he knows that you will not because you truly love him. Wish you luck
2006-12-07 03:52:25 · answer #1 · answered by saraikyon 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I realize that any words I use will be empty, and to some extent painful. However, you must realize that this situation is not unique to you. Many people find themselves in positions of unrequited love. The fact that you have considered suicide only tells me that your interest in this person in much greater than in should be. If ever you place your feelings for another person ahead of yourself, then you diminish your own worth. No one, or nothing that happens in your young life is worth its loss. Allow yourself time, I know it's painful, but allow yourself to examine your reason for being with this person. If it is to make yourself feel better, then it is the wrong reason. If it because he makes you feel complete, then there is something wrong in your life that requires another to complete you. Love is a mysterious master and can often hurt more than it helps. But do yourself a favor and really look at the basis for your love. It's easy to say you love someone, the hard part it truly loving them.
2006-12-07 04:03:31 · answer #2 · answered by Tom H 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hope you take this in only a kind way, but you need to find other things that interest you, perhaps even go for counseling. When you say that you are only letting yourself live because of one individual, that is too much of a burden to place on a person, especially at your ages. There is so many things in life to enjoy, and I promise things will clear up for you as you get older. Until you can find yourself and enjoy life for what it has to offer, you are not ready for a serious relationship. Hang in there, it will be worth it.
2006-12-07 04:08:24 · answer #3 · answered by mikesco 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dial down the intensity level some dear. He just got out of a relationship. Give him time to breathe. I do not understand why he would go straight into another relationship the day after you broke up with him, especially not if he really cared about you.
You don't mention why you broke it off, and you don't mention what angered him. Its hard to judge if his reaction was extreme when I don't know what caused it.
If you have tried to kill yourself, you don't need Yahoo Answers. You need professional help. Please seek out a trusted teacher, counselor or suicide hotline, if you can't speak to your parents.
You cannot make this boy love you. It doesn't work that way. You need to learn acceptance of the way things are. I know you are hurting, and I really would like you to get some serious help for your pain. Please don't hurt yourself anymore. Good luck.
2006-12-07 03:59:10 · answer #4 · answered by Firespider 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Woman to woman, no man is worth taking your own life for. You have selfworth and should not think that it's the end of the world because of this man. STOP CHASING HIM, he doesn't deserve your love, he knows that you want him so he's playing hard to get and dragging you down. I think you should start dating again maybe on-line dating this will help you take your mind off of him..(just a little)....if you can't seems to move on with your life then I suggest you seek a professional help. Good luck and move on. God Bless
2006-12-07 03:59:44 · answer #5 · answered by stiletto 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am in pretty much the same situation, but I do not want to kill myself. I reccomend you try to see other people and if you still have the same feelings for him let him know that you have been dating other people but still feel for him like you did. I know how you feel, but don't kill yourself, it sucks but its not bad enough to die. Give it more time. You'll see... things will get better.
2006-12-07 03:58:28 · answer #6 · answered by Parisian Dancer Girl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋