From 's Mom's sweet rolls to Aunt Evelyn peanut log, each of us has traditions and rituals unique to our family.
We do them every year, but barely give them much thought, so do they really matter?
And if you don't do them, do we feel guilty?
2006-12-07 03:35:25 · 13 answers · asked by ▒♥▒♥▒♥▒♥▒™ 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Yes they matter. We have a traditon at our house that on Christmas morning no one goes downstairs until everyone is ready. We also do not put all the presents under the tree, some are hidden with clues under the tree leading to their hiding spot. One year I felt my kids were getting too old for these traditions, we had done since they were barely able to crawl out of bed on their own. If you could have heard the complaints and cries of dismay from my 8,12, 13, and 16 year olds in protest of my decision to not do this anymore. Even now my children are 25 22 21 and 17 of which only one still lives at home and these traditions are still regarded as sacred. They come over before my youngest son rolls out of bed and come up the stairs and wait to all go down together. I still hide the presents secretly while they wait uptairs. I tell them I am going to need a bigger house if we continue this when the grandkids come along. But for the people who do not have any traditions they don't need to feel guilty but they really are missing out on a feeling that you cannot describe that comes with the holidays. Because you can feel the excitment mount even before you get there. Find something unique that makes the day different form any other. Find events to do together like going together to get everyones Christmas tree. It's about family time and love and doing things together.It's the one time during the year that everyone plans to take off for. It's the best time of the year.
2006-12-07 03:54:21 · answer #1 · answered by curiosity 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You'd be surprised how much they can matter - usually when it's too late to do anything about them.
When people grow up and start families of their own, they often choose to continue the traditions they had when they were young. Not for everything, of course, but for quite a lot.
The flip side of the coin is that when you lose a loved one, it's often the traditions that remind us of them in our lives. Scrabble may not be my favorite game, but my grandmother loves playing it, and when she passes away, it's one way I'll remember her.
Anything could happen to take away your loved ones before you know it - NOW is the time to ask your mother to share that avocado dip recipe or find out where Dad finds those particular crackers everyone enjoys at Christmas.
2006-12-07 03:42:23 · answer #2 · answered by Dilettante 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you want them to seem important to everyone, the next time you get together, write a poem about the ritual, or a small paragraph of who started this particular one and how much you appreciate it. Have a toast. Make the event memorable!
2006-12-07 03:38:06 · answer #3 · answered by Hammer 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes family traditions and rituals really matter.... You may not feel immediately guilty but over time you will...
2006-12-07 03:38:07 · answer #4 · answered by JohnS 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Thats what makes up a culture, whether its a family or national. Our lives are full of little rituals we just take for granite. Yes they matter.
2006-12-07 04:23:43 · answer #5 · answered by FC 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Remove leaves of a cabbage one after the other.What is finally left?Man less his cultural values is animal.Religion,customs,rituals.....all provided flesh and blood for the Society to take its shape in the past several years;for centuries.If we need to respect our elders,parents,grandparents......,it all really matter.
2006-12-07 04:36:43 · answer #6 · answered by KRMD 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I like the family traditions when I am with all of my family, but I wouldn't feel bad if I didn't do some of them when I am not with them.
2006-12-07 03:38:58 · answer #7 · answered by JB 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hehehehe Family rituals can be good but also distructive sweetcakes. Guilt, guilt is either your own or theirs placed upon you .. if its theirs - tell them to go to hell, you got your own issues to content with. If its your, sweet cakes, you cant go around this life feeling guilty about ... dont get caught being motivtied by guilt!!
2006-12-07 03:41:39 · answer #8 · answered by Eamon35 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Family traditions and/or rituals are impt., and you won't know how special they are until you lose them, or the family ties that participate in them. Happy holidays!
2006-12-07 03:39:55 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
They DO matter. They are really like a symbol of family and friendship. It won't be the same without them.
2006-12-07 03:38:54 · answer #10 · answered by shortnspunky 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋