My boyfriend's has three brothers. Only one of them is married. My boyfriend was engaged to his brother's wife's sister and because she cheated they broke off the engagement. I have not met my boyfriend's parents yet and am about to meet them for christmas. I don't know how my boyfriend's brother's wife will react towards me since she really wanted my boyfriend to marry her sister. From what I understand everyone is very happy that he finally got some he truly loves but she has been asking him alot of weird questions about me. My boyfriend says, "she is a sweetheart and I will love her, she is used to getting all the attention from his family since his mom only has sons." I know that she is very, very close to my boyfriend's mother and I am getting close to his mother as well even though I have not met her in person she calls me every other day. Do I avoid conversation with her? How do I react to a situation like that one? Please advice......
2006-12-07 03:35:22 · 11 answers · asked by K.S 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Please,please just be yourself.You are fine enough for him to choose you so just be who you are and they will love you for that.If you start out on the trying to please tip,you will always have to play that role. Be who you are and instead of worrying over how you'll be accepted,watch and see what kind of family you're getting into. Watch every one and every thing and learn about others.You'll be fine.
2006-12-07 03:40:26 · answer #1 · answered by punkin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok.. this is easy... You can not control the brothers wife. You need to take comfort in the fact that the Mom really likes you (she sounds like she adores you). That is the only person you need to worry about. Mothers love their sons in a different way than they do their daughers, and if she feels you are better for him than the "cheater"... that's what is most important. The sister is just being territorial, which is a natural thing since she has had all the attention. She'll get past that. Just remember that there are still 2 brothers left to go. She will be jealous of their wives also. The more wives get added, the more kids get added too. Is she going to be jealous that them also?
My advice, ignore what she does to you... Concentrate on the Mom and cultivating a wonder relationship with her... You future husband with love you more for that than the jealous sister inlaw.
Good luck!
2006-12-07 03:47:12 · answer #2 · answered by lester 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No I would not avoid her. Be yourself. It is not in any way your fault that her sister cheated on your boyfriend and you should not have to act any differently than who you are. It might be a little weird at first, but let her get to know who you are, as well as the rest of the family. If she never changes her mind about accepting you, then you had tried all you can.
Once she meets you and gets to know you a little better, then everything should work out just fine.
2006-12-07 03:45:42 · answer #3 · answered by jam_psb 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you relatively have not got a lot you're able to do. in case you may get her to flow to a counselor, it may help. i do no longer think in abortion for myself, yet i've got self assurance others have the wonderful to do it in the event that they sense they could . difficulty is, your sister on no account gained adequate counseling the 1st 2 circumstances, and having abortions is emotionally demanding and any lady having one does choose counseling. Your Sister-in-regulation is a repeater. She's have been given emotional issues led to with the aid of all this. additionally, it relatively is troublesome on her physique. Worst yet, she's being irresponsible. it is not all that troublesome to apply start administration so which you do no longer by danger get pregnant. it relatively is much less confusing on your thoughts and your physique than having an abortion. an oz.. of prevention is greater value-effective than a pound of treatment. She could discover afterward that she would manage to't get pregnant, or perchance won't manage to hold a baby to term in spite of everything she's doing to her physique. Please guard your self and settle for that your sister-in-regulation is legally an grownup, and it relatively is her good to dangle onto her ailment if that's what she chooses. Her ailment is psychological yet you have not got the wonderful to tension her to take greater efficient care of herself. in specific circumstances you may love people with the aid of permitting them to make their very own errors and stay with the end results of those alternatives. Your accountability is to your self, your individual toddler and your loving husband.
2016-10-05 00:17:00 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be yourself. If you want any future with your b/f do not pull back from his mom...she calls you so that means she likes you. The wife is just jealous b/c since you she won't be getting all the attention anymore. Just be yourself and don't stop talking to mom just b/c the wife is jealous....she'll have to get over it eventually.
2006-12-07 03:42:23 · answer #5 · answered by Get_R_Done_n_Dallas 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go in and act like you would if there were never together. Be your self. Your going to have to have self-confidence so as not to be intimidated. If she doesn't like you oh-well. Everyone else will. My sister in law hates me. Never even says hi if we are in the same room. Uncomfortable, but you live. And I get along with others and go for my husband and his parents because she's a jerk, I'm not going to make it worse on everyonelse.
2006-12-07 03:42:27 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, talk to her, get to know her. She isn't your enemy and probably will accept you if you talk to her. I am the second sister-in-law and we came to love each other. She had a car wreck a week ago and pass away. I miss her, she was my sister in every way. So go into this with the best attitude and she will accept you.
2006-12-07 03:41:38 · answer #7 · answered by Jan G 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you do not avoid conversation with her,your both a member of the same family so it had to.You just need to be yourself,answer any question she ask you,keep a positive attitude
GOOD LUCK
2006-12-07 03:44:11 · answer #8 · answered by leah 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the best way is to be yourself. your soon to be sister in-law i see is no threat. so enjoy yourself with your new family. and if shes use to getting all of the attention, well she has to get use of sharing the attention. congradulations on your coming up marriage.
2006-12-07 03:42:15 · answer #9 · answered by misty blue 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Run away! RUN!
2006-12-07 03:38:04 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋