My boyfriend lately has been accessivly drinking lately i need tips to make sure that he does not become an alcoholic!
2006-12-07 03:31:46 · 25 answers · asked by Shelly Belly 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Unfortunately, you cannot stop him from becoming an alcoholic. BUT you can make sure you are not enabling him in his drinking. If you need more info, go to an al-anon meeting. Another member of the Yahoo! community asked about it at this link: http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index?qid=20061008224751AAvUwEi.
2006-12-07 03:40:15 · answer #1 · answered by Faith 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hon, I am sorry but there is nothing you can do to prevent him from becoming an alcoholic. I've tried. Even if you hide the alcohol, argue about it, don't go out to bars with him etc... , you can't stop him from drinking. He will find a way. There are programs available to those who are affected by someone's drinking which may help YOU be happy whether he drinks or not. Loving him was all i could do when I was in this situation, loving him is my only job in a relationship, not trying to change him.
2006-12-07 03:41:44 · answer #2 · answered by tink 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is going down that path, there isn't a lot you can do except protect yourself.
- Tell you you will break up with him if he does not cut back on his drinking. And, follow through if he doesn't. He won't realize what the drinking is costing until it actually does cost him something. Frankly, if he doesn't stop, you don't want to be emotionally involved with an alcoholic.
- Protect yourself. Don't get into a car with him when he is drunk. Don't 'accept' his behavior when drunk. If he becomes a violent drunk, end the relationship immediately.
- If he does quit or cut back, be supportive. Don't drink in front of him. Don't come home drunk yourself. Be there for him.
BUT, don't let him pull you down as well. If he won't listen, walk away!
2006-12-07 03:41:20 · answer #3 · answered by Wundt 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't... you can tell him you think he's drinking too much, but alcoholism is built into people's genetics. Some people are simply unable to have a healthy relationship with alcohol... If you are concerned, express your concerns, but the rest is up to him... just like you can't make someone quit unless they want to, and if he has alcoholism in him, he must be abstinent from alcohol. People who are alcoholics "can't have just one" and will start hiding their drinking... the focus will become less social based (going to parties or bars to drink) and more private (at home, carrying a flask when going out, etc)
2006-12-07 03:41:32 · answer #4 · answered by HE'S NOT INTO ME 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl you should know that you can't prevent him from becoming an alcoholic. You could mention your observations about his consumption, it will probably piss him off. Or maybe you could offer to go to an AA meeting with him.
I have to tell you that acceptance is an important factor in this situation, for the both of you.
2006-12-07 03:40:11 · answer #5 · answered by ~Crystal~ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's not your decision, it's his. you could tell him to stop but if he doesn't want to listen he won't. you could take all his alcohol away but he will buy more if he wants to. take it from someone who knows, he needs to make that decision on his own. usually they have to hit bottom before they can get better.
the question now is are you going to leave or support him?
and how do you know he already isn't an alcoholic? alcoholism is not defined by a certain amount of alcohol consumed. it is defined by an inability to survive without alcohol. and it sounds like he might already be one.
2006-12-07 03:36:27 · answer #6 · answered by pikachu 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to an Al-Anon meeting. It's a group for people who need help in their relationships with alcoholics. Look in the phone book for meeting sites.
2006-12-07 03:35:39 · answer #7 · answered by Juanitaville 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
you can't. you have to understand alcoholism is a disease and only he has control over it. talk to him about it in a loving manner, that you care about him and you don't want to see things get bad between you. find out if anything is bothering him. but if it continues to the point you don't feel safe, protect yourself and get away from the situation. also mention alcoholics anonymous. they worked for me.
2006-12-07 03:41:11 · answer #8 · answered by bill blasphemy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give him an ultimatum. Either choose me or the alcohol. Let him know if he chooses you that you will help him drink in moderation or completely stop (depending on how severe the addiction potential is)
2006-12-07 03:34:10 · answer #9 · answered by Bumbo 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
You can't change anyone..they have to change themselves (or not change in your instance.) You can, however let him know you don't want him to become an alcoholic, and hopefully he loves you enough to respect your wishes, and limits his drinking.
2006-12-07 03:34:07 · answer #10 · answered by sillysinga7 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋