I an older bride, and I am paying for the entire wedding myself. I've told several people at my job that I am on a tight budget and that we are having a very small wedding and only inviting family and old friends. Some of the "old" friends are who I work with and have known professional for awhile. But, I am still getting people saying to me "Just make sure I am invited to the wedding." One girl actually gave me her address and she has only been working here for about a month! I'm so taken aback that I don't really say anything, but there has got to be a tactful way of saying..."sorry, your not invited." Any sugessions out there?
2006-12-07 03:28:56 · 8 answers · asked by lester 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
I would send the invites out to those who you want to invite and then if people still keep asking, I'd say "Oh, we already sent the invites out. It's going to be a very small affair, with just family." Other than that, I wouldn't approach the subject unless someone outright asks you where their invite is. People who keep dropping 'hints', I would just smile and go about my business. They'll know soon enough when your wedding comes and goes.
I would just keep pressing the 'small, family only' thing and hopefully they'll get the hint. I would not, in any way, make them believe they were invited.
And if some of your co-workers who you've known longer are invited, I would try not to talk about the wedding much at work to them. It could offend those who aren't invited.
2006-12-07 03:44:44 · answer #1 · answered by Rainy Days and Mondays 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Girl, Im a young bride and my wedding is July 7, 2007 so I have a while to wait, but I realized that this is MY wedding and what I say goes, I had about 9 bridesmaids on my list then my fiance asked me to narrow it down, so i called the ones I didnt want on the list and told them that they could be a bridesmaid. What you need to do is tell that woman, who gave you her address whose been working with you for only a few months, is that she cannot come. then you say, "im sorry but this is a small wedding and you cannot come." sometimes you have to be mean to others for their own good.
Best of luck with you wedding. When is it? Maybe i can help out with ideas if you have if its not coming up too soon.
God Bless you,
June G
2006-12-07 11:41:24 · answer #2 · answered by June G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There really isn't anything you CAN do except politely mention that your wedding will be a smaller, more intimate affair. I don't get the nerve of people sometimes....assuming they are invited to something like a wedding...when they are just your co-workers. I worked in a banquet facility for years, and it's not cheap to throw a wedding reception!!
2006-12-07 11:38:17 · answer #3 · answered by Rach 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell them that the wedding is a small, private affair for family members only. If you are planning a reception, you can tell them they are still invited to the fun part.
2006-12-07 12:01:53 · answer #4 · answered by Mariposa 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i definately wouldn't be doing any wedding planning or talk about the wedding in front of anyone who isn't invited....and the next time some-one invites themselves i'd say "i wish i could have a bigger guest list, but i really have to stick to my budget"......good luck!...i know how hard it can be when everyone around you starts inviting themselves and telling you how to have your own wedding.....(my ex-sister in law when the engagement was announced got all excited and assumed she would be a bridesmaid....awkward!!....so i know how you feel!)
2006-12-07 12:05:25 · answer #5 · answered by SNAP! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would restate that it's a small wedding, and then mail the invitations, not take them to work in front of others that are not invited.
2006-12-07 11:39:25 · answer #6 · answered by suzieq_64093 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"I'm sorry, but it will only be a small wedding. Sorry that we could only invite a small number of our friends." Stick to it.
Hopefully you will be able to have a [less expensive or potluck] party where you can invite the world. Invite those folks to that.
2006-12-07 11:44:56 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Simply say "Oh, I'm sorry, but we are having a private ceremony. Thank you for wanting to be there for me though." That's all you need to say. If anyone tries to pressure you into an invitation (which is terribly rude, I think) just say, "No, I'm sorry, it's private." and change the subject.
2006-12-07 11:50:58 · answer #8 · answered by Tallulah 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋