I left her because she has mental health issues, but i feel that I still love her. we have had long talks about me going back and she promises me she will get help for her mental illness, i have to believe her, but i'm not sure. I want children and to marry. Also I have a very good friend who i have been seeing for 6 months and have known for 5 years, we keep coming back together periodically, I really do like her alot but she lives with her partner(complicated) and have to tell her i'm going back to my ex! I would like to be friends with her still but have to try with my ex else i'll never know if we could of made it. But what if I loose my friend..any advise?
2006-12-07 02:55:58 · 8 answers · asked by Julz 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
if you feel that you still love her then it is worth a second chance. you don't want to wonder what if. if she promises to get help with her issues then you should be there for her and see what happens. as for the friend, if she is already involved with someone, she should understand you wanting to settle down and try to work things out with this woman. good luck!!
2006-12-07 03:11:46 · answer #1 · answered by Heather D 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be very, very cautious. I agree, I would wait until she got help but would not jump back in to the situation you were in before. If you want marriage and children, this may put a lot of strain on your relationship if she has these problems. Some people with mental health problems can adapt to family life with support,for others it may push them over the edge to deal with pregnancy, a baby etc. You probably know in your heart if she is the one for you. Never take 2nd best.
2006-12-07 03:06:35 · answer #2 · answered by Sarah 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oh Sarah, i'm so sorry you're dealing with this back! No, i visit't say that you're over reacting because a kiss is a kiss and that i'd hate it if i got here upon my husband had kissed yet another woman! The useful situation is that, he got here to WILLINGLY and admitted what befell 2 12 months'S in the past, meaning, he has been risk free because that then, we are hoping:D i visit't see why you need to no longer telephone this different woman- after all, you aren't from now on going to be chatting with her abusive husband, yet her. you may say that this has damage you very a lot and also you're confident that if she were in love which includes her husband, she may sense an identical. i'd achieve this and also you may be polite about it. This can also be a sort of closure for you; she may sense sorry about what she did. at present, you may want to concentration on the useful elements that your hubby does love you very a lot and pray to Jehovah at the same time, to ask for the ability to get over this discomfort. i'm the following in case you want to communicate. Your sis Suzanne
2016-11-24 20:58:12 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if your ex has mental heath issues you have to now you are strong enough to deal with whatever problems she has and give her 100% support if you are not willing to do that there is no point as for the other woman you cannot have a relationship with her if you decide to try with your ex! this other woman lives with somebody and has nothing to offer you if she wanted more she would have left her partner for a relationship with you, you Can not have your cake and eat! it by staying Friends with this other woman are you just trying to keep your options open that's not fair on anybody and really selfish on your part.
2006-12-07 03:14:59 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
the only way i would go back in a situation like this is if your ex sought help for her mental issues before you have her back
2006-12-07 03:01:43 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can never ever go back. Its never the same the second time around imho.
2006-12-07 02:59:46 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
compromise. your ex needs help.patch up .pray it ends well
2006-12-07 03:18:47 · answer #7 · answered by modol 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no
2006-12-07 03:47:42 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋