He's from another state and said that he wants to "kick it" with me when he's in town.I'm not in a relationship and we get along great, but I am afraid of falling for him. Should I be his friend with benefits or will I just be setting myself up for a heart break? He's 6 years older than I am and we get along great. He stays at my place and we joke around and talk so it's not all about sex.
2006-12-07 02:52:35 · 21 answers · asked by 1 bad chick 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
friends with benifits...BAD IDEAAA!!
2006-12-07 02:54:29 · answer #1 · answered by kellydarcey 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand where your coming from but take it from me. I just got the heart break of a lifetime. It's cool that you'll are friends and that you'll get along so well. Trust me you are gonna fall for him. You are going to start building up that trust and have all this feels for someone you don't even know what he is doing back home once he leaves you. You can be friends with benefits, but the questions is can you keep you heart and emotions out of it? Okay, look I found a friend whom I thought I could just hang out with and have an intellgent conversation with from time to time. It was like that the first couple of months but then as we spent more time together and really getting to know each other the emotions came. I started to develop this feelings for him as well as he. After a while then started to change between us and he started lieing about stupid stuff. Then one day when we were hang out with each other, his girl came over to the house while I was there. She know about me but I didn't know about her and that hurt. I asked him time and time again if he had a girlfriend to please tell and that I wouldn't get mad. I just wanted the truth. He told me that he did have a girlfriend and that he only had friends that were females. I was okay with that. The reason I keep asking him that question because I know my heart and I was trying to stay far away from a heart break but that didn't happen. So, please learn a lesson from me if you cannnot keep your heart out of it, don't get in it. Sex just make things worse. Believe me.
2006-12-07 11:12:41 · answer #2 · answered by SouthernGirl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is when its "convenient for him" situation, hes from another state, I ve never known a long distance relationship to work longer than a yr. You need to realize that this is someone that you may or may not see on a regular basis and you have no idea what hes doing in his own state, so I take have fun with whatever you decide but try not to let your feelings get too involved.
2006-12-07 10:57:56 · answer #3 · answered by inquisitor1125 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you think you are going to fall for him or make the relationship out to be more then what it will be then no. However if you can seperate the 2 (love and sex) then have a good time!!!!
2006-12-07 10:56:49 · answer #4 · answered by TF 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If youre not in a relationship then go for it. if you get along great and you would then do it. If you fall for him whats so bad about that hes a nice guy right.
2006-12-07 10:56:29 · answer #5 · answered by Sexy Blonde 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Can you have fun, but prepare yourself for "heart-break"? If you can imagine what it's going to be like when it all falls apart and are OK with it, go for it.
A good relationship that lasts is difficult to maintain. Hope for the best, but be prepared for disaster too.
Always have fun.
2006-12-07 10:56:12 · answer #6 · answered by Cameron L 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go 4 it. atleast if u cant find ur luv u ll find a good friend . if u stays away u ll loose both . and u never know wid time he may fall in luv wid u 2 . so go 4 it dun miss da chance
2006-12-07 10:59:19 · answer #7 · answered by dia a 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do what you feel is the correct thing to do. But also realize that you may be setting yourself up for a heartache if you decide to alter your current relationship.
2006-12-07 10:55:10 · answer #8 · answered by crazylegs 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men will talk to you just so that they can get sex. If you don't mind just being an unpaid whore (unless you just like having casual sex) go for it. Don't get your emotions involved though because are you will be to him is a girl he can "kick it" with.
2006-12-07 10:56:59 · answer #9 · answered by truly 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont be foolish. Friend with benefits spells trouble.
your going to end up broken hearted.
this guy only is going to be satisfied with one thing and when he gets that, you will find yourself hurt.
2006-12-07 10:58:27 · answer #10 · answered by apostle1938 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am just hoping that u are not a minor. other than that i think u just have to trust urself on this one. so do you see yourself with him in acouple of years??? you have to make a decision that not only you and him will be happy with but also God.
2006-12-07 10:59:47 · answer #11 · answered by FoxE_single _lady37 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋