2006-12-07 02:38:33 · 6 answers · asked by stacey f 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Grade-Schooler
It's pretty normal behavior for a 7-yr old. (especially girls). She is testing the waters and you need to stand your ground because if you let her get away with this behavior, it will get continually worse. You will soon have a 16-year old talking to you like that.
What worked for my children is taking something away from them. Sometimes it was TV or video games or not allowing them to visit a friend or friends to visit them.
The key is consistency. If you correct the behavior this time and let it fly the next time...whatever you do will not work.
Good luck.
2006-12-07 07:20:54 · answer #1 · answered by Jane 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perfectly normal in this day and age, but I would still try to find out, CALMLY, where the attitude came from. Talk to her and see what's up with her latley. Friends? T.V shows? Video games? Overheard conversations? That is a highly receptive age, the mind is really picking up on EVERYTHING. Just talk for now, like a friend, but be a parent, y' know?
2006-12-07 03:05:13 · answer #2 · answered by INDRAG? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seems to me she needs to be told that such behavior is not allowed. If she does it again lay out the consequences and stick to them. I would say that said consequences might include a bare bottom spanking, corner time, early bedtime and maybe writing 100 times I will not sass my elders.
2006-12-07 06:31:36 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wait, wait. I have been down the same road, my daughter started that stage at around 8. Please Learn from my mistakes. I stopped spanking my oldest daughter after the age of 6 or so. At that age she also was the sweetest thing on earth. I thought fewwww spankings were done, that wasn't so bad. again 6 and 7 were great, 8 started getting a little tough. She also would get in trouble in school, or do little things that would just add up. She then stopped listening to us, you tell her "no" she would go that extra step, do it one more time. Then wham, she started lying, talking back, throw fits/tantrums, yelling at us, never doing what was asked of her, it was endless and hopeless.
In thinking she was 8 and to old for spankings we tried everything else possible. Time outs, long time outs, taking away bikes, no friends, no TV, even canceled a birthday party she was to attend because she got another one of those bad notes via school. One day, she decided she would go for a little bike ride, and not tell us. I thought she was playing in our back yard, and I got a phone call from a friend about 3 blocks away, asking if I knew that my daughter was riding her bike around the park by herself. I was floored, I couldn't believe it.
I jumped in our truck, flew down to the park. With fire in my eyes, ordered my oldest into the truck. When we got home she I told her to go up to her room until I decided on a punishment. After a long talk with my husband (her dad) who was at work, we decided she was to be given a spanking, and that this was the final straw and that spankings would return as a form of punishment for her. She had put her life in danger, and we couldn't let that happen again. I went up to her room, explained that I had talked to her dad, and that we decided on a punishment, her eyes got huge, she to thought she was home free when it came to spankings.Not so she learned. I bared her hiney, put her over my lap and spanked her for a good long time, longer then ever before, because of it being a life threatening situation.
My husband and I then came up with a "CORE RULES" list. We did this with both of our older daughters, (5, and 8 @ the time) They even helped come up most of them. This is kind of how it looks
1. No Lying
2. No Bad Behavior reports from teacher/school, grand parents, babysitters......anyone responsible for my child when I am not around (which isn't often, since I don't work)
3. No steeling
4. No saying bad words
This isn't all of them, but this is how our list started, we then added as they tried new things. If our older two girls break any of these rules, they earn a spanking, when they do, they sit in their room and think about it for a while, we then bring in the list, and ask them if they broke any of the core rules. They have always said "Yes" and we make them read out which one was broken. They already know what the punishment is so there is no question about what will happen. We spank them, then have a long talk, about better ways to behave. Lots of hugs and kisses, and they are on their way. It took a good 2 to 3 months of a lot of spankings, for my oldest to come around. She has been 10 for 2 months, with almost zero behavior problems. To say the least, we are very happy parents. I will no longer put a age limit on spanking, maybe 12 or 13. Gosh I hope not, that old, but I know better now, if it's needed I will do it.
As for the spanking, If you don't make is a bad experience don't bother doing them. I would say make sure to pull down pants and panties, place them over your laps, and give them at least a dozen or more good sharp stinging spanks to the bottom. It's OK for children to be crying hard after a good spanking, that's the way it's suppose to be.
Sorry to bore you with our stories, but the mistake we made, that I am trying to advise you not to is - 7 is not to old for a spanking, heck if my 10 year old breaks one of the rules tomorrow, a spanking she will get. same as 11,12,13. Stay tuff, hang in there. You will do just fine.
Good Luck
2006-12-07 20:30:16 · answer #4 · answered by olschoolmom 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yup, just work through it. That is totally normal for a kid that age. Explain to her your limits on the issue and the consequences for crossing them and stick to your guns.
2006-12-07 02:41:24 · answer #5 · answered by binglejells2003 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
take her things away if she does not listen to you or talks back. soon she will learn that she has to behave to keep the things she loves
2006-12-07 02:40:46 · answer #6 · answered by littleluvkitty 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋