Basically we have been dating for 6 years and recently she asked me for a break because she was unhapy. I argued with her but after a few times of her asking i said fine take it. During the break i said no contact at all but she sent me text messages saying she missed me and a long email about how she cant live without me. So after a week break we got back togethor and even though she now wants to get engaged and married and keeps telling me how much she loves me and misses me i still have in the back of my mind that she doesn't want to be in the relationship. What do you think?
2006-12-07 02:31:25 · 13 answers · asked by krazy a 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
What im thinking is shes afraid to be with out me so maybe shes forcing her self to like me. She always yells at me for over analyzing but i cant help it.
2006-12-07 02:38:31 · update #1
Six years is a long time to be with someone.
Maybe the reason she wanted the break was to see if you would fight for her or not.
Sometimes we Women need a little validation.
We want to know that you love us, and "need" us.
She isn't feeling sorry for you, she is telling you that she doesn't want to be without you.
I am wondering if the reason you are questioning her intentions, is that you aren't sure what you want.
Don't over think it, or you will doubt the last six years of you lives together.
Very well might end up throwing a great relationship away.
I am going to check back to see how you make out.
You touched a cord with me, and I hope you do the right thing, whatever you choose to make it.
2006-12-07 02:48:24 · answer #1 · answered by lil' angel 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yeah I second the don't analyze this too much point. Emotions are too complicated. But in general the whole point of a break is to usually take time to look at the relationship. She probably realized she needed something else and thought it may be another person. It turned out that she did need something else, you as her husband and not just bf. Six years is a long time without a "hard symbol of commitment."
2006-12-07 10:41:56 · answer #2 · answered by Almack 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe after she spent all that time without you, she realized she did love you and needed you so if she's back is cuz she cares, otherwise the break would have been longer or you guys might of never gotten back together...think about it. She wouldn't be making plans to marry if she didn't love you.
2006-12-07 10:36:23 · answer #3 · answered by bellarisel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think its normal to have a break espeacially that you guys been together for 6 yrs. If she took the time to send you text messages and write you long letters, well then she really loves you.
2006-12-07 10:35:01 · answer #4 · answered by bananaboo517 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she is constantly saying that she loves you and wants to get married and all then she might really want a relationship with you. During that week she might have realized that you make her life complete.
2006-12-07 10:36:20 · answer #5 · answered by Crazy K. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO girl would ask for marriage if she didn't want it.
trust me.
So..the next part of buisiness is to ask her to marry you!
I would suggest taking her on a boat (like a row boat) and go fishing.
Have a cute picnic on the water.
In the dessert (like a cherry tart or something) stick the ring VISIBLY on top of hers.
Bend down on one knee and propose!
If she says yes, the take her hand, put the ring on her finger, grabe her in your arms, and jump in the lake!
If she says no, push her off the boat.
^^^^just kidding!
good luck!
2006-12-07 10:36:40 · answer #6 · answered by lulu b 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well...to me it sounds like during the break she had time to evaluate her feelings and found she truly loved and missed you.
Try not to look too deeply or analyse this too much...you'll make yourself insane. Look in your heart, listen to it...do you want to be with this woman permanently? If there is doubt, go for councelling before any big steps.
2006-12-07 10:34:52 · answer #7 · answered by The_Cookie_Goddess 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i think u need to make sure she is who u want first then u need to know how she really feels was the break up to scare u? did she do it in hope that u would realize she is the 1 for u. some of us women do stupid things to try to get what we want no it's not pity on your part i think it's pitty on her part.
2006-12-07 10:53:05 · answer #8 · answered by KISS 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like she is confused. talk about it with her, and don't make any serious moves until you are sure she really loves you and when you feel the same way.
2006-12-07 10:37:36 · answer #9 · answered by Essie 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
maybe she didn't realize how she felt until she left
2006-12-07 10:34:58 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋