My boyfriend and I got into a disagreement last night. He said he was tired and we went to bed. I had my second wind and started to talk and he told me to be quiet. I said maybe I would go in the other room to read and he said I could read in bed.
A few minutes later, he strarted messing around with me. He was massaging my back and trying to take my clothes off. I refused and threw his words back in his face about being tired and it being bed time. I basically said that I wasn't in the mood because he was telling me to be quiet before.
He rolled over to face the other direction and pouted as he went to sleep.
Just curious, woman need to feel appreciated before they can have sex....do men need sex in order to fee appreciated?
2006-12-07 02:21:56 · 26 answers · asked by torn 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I have to be honest here. As a man I feel extremely unattractive and unwanted if my partner says she doesn't want sex. I personally think that it is true: a man does need to have sex to feel loved.
This is not, however, an excuse for men to use to bribe women to have sex with them. If the man truly loves the woman, he wouldn't try to pressure her.
2006-12-07 02:24:57 · answer #1 · answered by Mawkish 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Well you cant stereotype the sexes like that, it depends on the person. If a wife thinks that sex and love can exist without each other then she should have no problem having sex whether she feels loved or not. I also think that sex and love are different and I really love sex so I'm always up for it. If our relationship isn't going well (which is most of the time), in my mind I separate the relationship from the sex because the sex is basically an act where we both get ours. And Im sure there are enlightened men out there who see other things besides sex as a show of love. For other couples who are in this 'deadlock' you describe, I guess the best thing is to keep the lines of communication open. Thats all I got.
2016-03-13 04:20:45 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men are wired so much different than women. A man's way of thinking is more simple than we think. When a woman has a desire for affection (touching, making love, massages, compliments), she may have another reason other than physical need such as having the need to be wanted by the person she is with. A man wants to touch, have sex just because he wants to touch and have sex!...lol. I am not saying men don't have emotional triggers or feelings but it usually doesn't work that way. He may have attempted to have sex with you to say he was sorry and he wanted to make up. I doubt if it had anything to do with him wanting to be loved.
2006-12-07 02:27:45 · answer #3 · answered by No Perm 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For the most part of what I have found you are correct most woman need to feel wanted appreciated etc....we typically do not leap into bed after something upsetting us while men on the other hand I found can turn off the world and want sex. They think totally different than us. I have not found a REAL man a mature man that needed sex to feel loved or wanted.
2006-12-07 02:24:57 · answer #4 · answered by chattylady47150 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's been said that men give love to get sex. Women give sex to feel loved.
2006-12-07 02:25:24 · answer #5 · answered by robinallsup 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
men need sex to feel loved; women need love in order to have sex
2006-12-07 02:26:42 · answer #6 · answered by Jim G 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know what you mean. I don't feel like it when they have been an *** all day or if they were rude shortly before bed time. They just need sex because they are horny.
2006-12-07 02:25:14 · answer #7 · answered by MsFancy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl No, I think a lot guys do this ......Sometimes it means sorry and other times they are Just Horny.... this is sad to say but, to be honest some girls are the same ways it's a shame. However, In all actuality it all depends on they Guy... they all aren't like that!?!
2006-12-07 02:29:19 · answer #8 · answered by ladytusaf 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you know sometimes thats the way a man shows love.. some men aren't good speaking words.. showing how much they care... but by making love some men feel that is the way they show how much they love you
2006-12-07 02:29:33 · answer #9 · answered by ﺸÐïåMóñdÐôññåﺸ 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sex is a maturaty thing, it really depends on the age. The older you get the less important sex becomes to stronghold a relationship. (but its still great), what I mean is you can connect with your partner on many other levels beside the horizontal one.
2006-12-07 02:24:23 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋