heres the story.
i ahve known this girl for 5 years. we used to work together when we were younger but that was years ago. we hang out every so often only b/c we live in differant states now. (florida & ohio). last time she told me she loved me and looked me right in the eyes when she did it. i have been inlove with her for years now.
the problem is that she rarly returns my calls. i think she really does care for me alot but i cant be certain. why does she not call very often or why does she never asnwer my calls. she is very sweet which only makes it harder to understand why.
i wrote her an email last week telling her that i loved her and it was time that i told her that. i asked her to let me know so ican either get her out of my head and move on or do something about it. i know ashe does not check her email that often but it may be the only way to get through to her.
does she really like/love me or am i just blind?????
2006-12-07 02:07:58 · 16 answers · asked by Steven Colbert 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think it's time to move on. If I care about someone I want to be in contact with them. Maybe she gets off having you hanging around even though she does not want to be with you. Cut your losses now.
2006-12-07 02:10:21 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think after reading this that she probably does care very deeply for you however, I am unsure that her love for you is the same as yours is for her. I could be wrong and for your case I hope that I am. She may be busy at the time that you call her and then by the time she wants to return your call it may either be too late in the day or she just truly got busy and forgot to do so. I think by writing her the email and explaining how you felt towards her was a wise decision and if you are unsure as to when she may read it you may want to send her a text message telling her she has an email that you would like for her to read and that way you will know she read it. Don't get bummed out if you don't hear from her for a day or two after reading it simply because she may need to soak everything within the letter in and gather her thoughts as how to approach you on the subject. Goodluck and I wish you well.
2006-12-07 02:17:07 · answer #2 · answered by Mariachi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
distant relationships rarely work, I'm not saying they don't work at all, but sometimes it just can't happen. If she doesn't check her email often, leave her a text message on her cell phone, or a regular message on her phone machine that you love her, she get that faster than an email. If you don't hear from her after that message, that's a clear message that you need to move on.
I agree 5 years is a long time! Someone sweet and nice find it hard to hurt someone with words and avoidance is what she seems to prefer. You did all you can do, and now you just either have to make the choice to wait, or move on to something you can hug, smile at and do fun things with everyday, instead of thinking about it, you'll be doing it!
2006-12-07 02:13:02 · answer #3 · answered by DrPepper 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know what your going through. Here's the deal...Relationships are our devine right with love as the attainable goal. Along with this awesome experince comes some difficulity. Living far away from the person you love creates even more of a strain on relationships. You cannot immediately be there to comfort the person when they are suffering, spend quality time with them on a regular basis and just physically 'be' there. She looked you in the eyes and told you that she loves you, and you know her better then any of us, so you know if that look was genuine. But there is a lot of distance between the two of you, so what you need to do is pack your bags and go to her. Regardless of what her answer is to you, go to the girl. Tell her exactly what it is you feel for her, weather you just want a boyfriend/girlfriend relationship or you want to marry her. You have to tell her to her face. Then she will know of your seriousness and dedication to the relationship regardless of the miles between the two of you. If she accepts, then you have to come up with some kind of a plan as far as who is going to make the move. You have to be closer if you want this to work, I'm sorry, there is just no other way. But if you love each other, it shouldn't be that difficult of a decision. Pack up and go to her! It's a long drive, but both of your destinies may depend upon it. And if she tells you no, at least you know your answer and you can walk away knowing you did your best. Then you move on from there! Gods speed......
2006-12-07 02:17:30 · answer #4 · answered by frigidx 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you left it a little late to tell her how you feel.... and if you really want to make an impression you should do something bold and slightly romantic. I have people in my life I love including my ex husband but in this day age it's hard for anyone to really know.
Cast your heart but don't cut off the friendship you have with her to a woman that is really shallow. Good Luck .... remember love you first and the one you want will follow. ox
2006-12-07 02:24:01 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Actually, 'irresistible' says it best above.
Enjoy one another when together. Get on with your life. True Love prevails. If you two are truly meant for one another it will all work out. So stop worrying and wondering. Live your life and love others as you may, and by all means, stop contacting her. Let her make the next move.
2006-12-07 02:16:21 · answer #6 · answered by mellow 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she might be in love with you but the problem may be that it is so long distince and maybe she doesnt have the money to call or maybe you just call at the wrong time nexttime you send her an email try to get a time together that when you call you will know that she is there maybe that will help
good luck
2006-12-07 02:15:45 · answer #7 · answered by Brandi S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you are blind. That girl has a live in boyfriend and that is why she cant call you. I think she is already with someone else and just talks to you when she can. You may be a nice person and she does not want to hurt your feelings.
2006-12-07 02:11:08 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would say if she still was in the same state as you, try to work it out. Move on its seems to me she has. If she was interested she would at least return your calls. you can find a girl that will give you the respect that you need to do. good luck.
2006-12-07 02:14:45 · answer #9 · answered by misty blue 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hard to say really. i personally am really hard to get ahold of and even though i am on the intarnet every day i can go weeks with out checking my email. give her a bit of time. if she hasnt replyed in one month. take it as a sign, and move on.
2006-12-07 02:13:16 · answer #10 · answered by phrani c 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋