ok i had this bf that i had trust issues with. not becuz of my own problems but becuz of things he did in the past. for example, my neighbor told me she seen him in the car with another woman. i asked him about and he said it was his ex. ok another one, everytime we would go out he would take it upon himself to stare other women down in front of me. he would look at the their you know what area . then he has lied at different occasions of his whereabouts. now he is a dj on the side . he has a regular job also. i told him that at this time it makes me uncomfortable when he go do these parties becuz i know how these parties are with women around. i use to go with him but since we had all these problems i stopped. besides i have kids i cant go all the time. well i asked him until i trust him again he shouldnt do these parties right now. he said i was getting mad over nothing, you how that goes. well what do you think.
2006-12-07 02:00:13 · 30 answers · asked by eaglestraces123 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I've dated a few DJ s in my time so I pretty much know where your coming from i would go to parties with him but once i stop drinking I no longer wanted to go anymore that's when i started going through all kinds of **** him lying, telling me the party will be over at acertain time but coming home later going straight to the bathroom to wash his sin away,he got a reg.9-5 too and i told him to choose DJing or me he chose me but he still DJ on the side not like he use to it's maybe 6-10 times a year. It's hard as hell to trust a DJ around so many women cause he's got a bunch to choose from and many ways and excuses to use he can say that she's a person that want him to spin records for a party or what ever do you get the pitcure.
You need to make up in your own mind is this guy really worth all the pain and suffering that your going through. don't get played like he play his songs over&over again.
2006-12-07 04:24:32 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What's the point of being with him if you know you can't trust him? Just the actions you have described are enough to not want to be with him. You deserve a relationship where you know your man is into you, and not looking for attention elsewhere. You deserve to not have to wonder all the time about what your man is out doing. I know how you feel. My ex was the same way. His other ex was always around because she used their kid as an excuse. Even though I'm not with him anymore, I hear she still hangs around constantly. That means they haven't been together for at least the 3 1/2 yrs. I've known him, yet she's stuck around. And with good reason, cuz it's not exactly like he tells her not to. Also, when we were out shopping or whatever, he'd always stare at other girls. I know men look, but these were all-out stares and gawkings. Enough to make me feel like an idiot being with him. Also he'd go out to "clubs" with a buddy of his. I've seen what they do there, do you think I believe he actually behaved himself? Sure - not. The players always act like you get mad about nothing. To make you feel guilty and stop wondering and so you keep trusting them while they are out doing their thing anyway. Obviously you know you can't trust him, you are not happy in the relationship, and that is definitely grounds to end it with him. Just keep in mind that you, and others, know he's scum, and that there's no reason you don't deserve better!
2006-12-07 02:16:36 · answer #2 · answered by angelbaby 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow!! My gosh what a problem you have! One thing I can say is you are right about protecting your daughter in this matter and if the only way you can protect your daughter is by kicking him out, then start packing his things. As far as calling is PO, I would say if he threatens you for doing this then start dialing! Other than that if you feel that you are thinking of calling the PO because you are extremely pissed right now then try to calm down, take a deep breathe and just tell him to leave. Because unless you clearly told him "when" you told him the "NO" drinking rule then that action may be an act of retaliation on your part that you may regret. On the other hand if you feel he needs to go to jail then go ahead. I hope you make a wise and fair decision for all.
2016-05-23 03:29:35 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think if you have trust issues with him now more than likely you will always have them. I think you should end it. if its meant to be you will start trusting him and not worrying about him looking at another girl or dj a party thats his work thats how he makes money to help support you and the kids. i think if you cant trust him let him go.
2006-12-07 02:09:37 · answer #4 · answered by tcameron_2004 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is my expereince that if you can't trust somebody you should not be with him. He has disrespected you in the past by lying to you and by looking at other women the way he does in front of you. I would leave him. I hate to sit at home and be worried about what he is doing, where he is at, and who he is doing it with. It would drive me crazy. Life is too short to stay with somebody you can't be secure with. You deserve to be happy and you can't be happy always wondering if he is being honest. It is all on what you can deal with though. There are plenty of men that you can find that can give you a healthy trustfilled relationship that you and your kids derserve.
2006-12-07 02:08:15 · answer #5 · answered by Sarah G 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't believe you will ever trust this man. Your past has not been encouraging. Find someone who does not put these feelings in your heart. When your partner leaves the home, worrying about what he is doing with others should not even be a consideration. Time to release him. Find someone who cares about only you.
2006-12-07 02:07:50 · answer #6 · answered by june clever 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to see yourself with him after 10 years, what do you see?Do you think you would be happy with this kind of guy whose hiding and keep lying to you?And who wants to be in party place all the time?You have your kids, I know you want a good father for them, so find another guy who could be a good example to them and be true good to you..hope I helped you thats all.
2006-12-07 02:06:28 · answer #7 · answered by missy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Find another guy. He clearly doesn't respect you or your feelings. On the other hand you sound like you are being over protective and controlling. You need to decide if you trust him or not. If you don't then you need to find someone else ... if you do, then you need to stop trying to control him and let him live his life.
2006-12-07 02:05:42 · answer #8 · answered by RayCATNG 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
By your second sentence the answer was pretty much dump the guy. If you can't trust him, have caught him in lives, he hadn't told you about the ex on his own, etc.; you have abolutely no foundation to build a strong relationship on.
2006-12-07 02:06:04 · answer #9 · answered by ? 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You answered your own question tell him to take a hike. Sweetheart if you already have kids than you need someone who will be on the same page with you. You dont need to worry all the time what your man is doing, your man should be worrying what your doin. Get his butt outta there!
2006-12-07 02:05:21 · answer #10 · answered by Kat A 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋