How to work with your ex?

Question

Unknowingly my exgirlfriend has just been employed at the same work place as me. Things were left a little awkwardly between us, any advice on how we should get along

Answer 1

u should make differenciate between ur personal matters and ur work
treat her as a normal worker in ur workplace
that is all

Answer 2

Being oblivious, depends how long it has been since you split, most of the time if it has been a couple of months you both will have gotton on with your lives and the rest is history, be polite if she cold shoulders you, just shrug smile and carry on about your day, she will most probably only be funny towards you to get a reaction, so by not looking affected she will soon get bored. If however you ended on bad terms because of something you did, i would take her to one side say you feel bad about it but would like to say you were sorry and buy her a drink, if your worried she may see this as ticket back into the relationship then i would just make it clear you didn't want whatever happened to affect you work status and would like to be friends.

Answer 3

Professionalism has to be first in this situation I'd think...hopefully she can be as professional as yourself in dealing with this...try speaking with her to get it all settled...hopefully she has moved on as it seems you have and there won't be too much fallout to deal with from the past.

Just let her know that for the sake of your jobs, you hope that the two of you can become amicable at least in the workplace, to ensure that both of you aren't dreading those times when you run into one another.

I think it can work out fine if both of you are looking at it as an opportunity to get past the things that are behind you...those are gone, history, and now you've obviously been offered a new opportunity to deal with each other on a more open level...hope it all works out great for you...there is every possibility that one can be friends or at least civil with their ex's if that's what both want.

Good luck

Answer 4

I am sure that girls anger last very short time so make sure you are friends I am sure she left it all in the past no matter how you left the things. Me and my ex were suppose to work together to his familys company we met each other everyday but our problem we never mentioned it on the work place we were team. and when we left it has nothing to do with us both just both of us start new careers in different time. After work me and him still had this conflict

Answer 5

distance makes the difference..if you 2 can & will & have reained friends i dont see what the dilliema could be, but "jealousy" can play a major role in this huh?.. well try to avoid her (if possible( speak & keep it moving, stay away from people places & things that like to bring & carry bones, in other words turn the death ear, b/c misery loves company & some folfs live for that sort of drama, you know, she said this & she likes him or him & him, keep ya' head up & stay focused on the work.. good luck..

Answer 6

I would talk to her and tell her that since you two are working at the same place. lets try to get along. outside of work just go on and live your separate lives. but tell her that you want to get along with her. and hopefully she does too. It might seem awkward at first being there at work . but it will ease up as time goes. by just keep busy.

Answer 7

just treat her like any other colleague that you work with - if she starts acting a bit odd take her to one side and tell her that whilst you two obviously have had personal issues you believe the best conduct within the workplace is professionalism and you'd prefer if you could leave personal discrepencies at the door. xx

Answer 8

Just act normal i know it will be difficult but you just have to try cuz if you start haveing problems with her and you know it's at work i don't think you will end up being to happy waking up in the morning to go to worl.like i always say don't start what you can not finish

Answer 9

i work beside my ex of 9 years. bloody hard at first. but now it feels like it was when we were together. i mean the playfulness thing, can still have a laugh. its all good. dont be a d*ck to her. be the person she liked before.. it'll pay off. i met her new friend. Mmmm! very nice. believe its called networking. lol

Answer 10

I would just ask her aside and talk just say we're working together now whats happened has happened so we'll have to make the most of it. just be normal with her then as is she was any other female collegue. i work with my ex and its fine we actually get on great now.