I met this amazing guy!!!! We found eachother during the craziest of times....neither one of us expectected or wanted anything....But it grew into something. Our time together is so nice....he treats me like gold....We've told eachother that we love one another and I know I truely do! He just asked me and my daughter to move in with him. It means a lot to me because now I know he's ready for a commitment with me....and it means even more that he's willing to take on a woman with a child....and accepting that I have a child with another man....My daughter has met him a few times....she likes him....but she's only 3...so doesn't really know too much about whats going on...maybe more than I realize....If I do choose to move in with him....it's not going to be until March. I think that will give my daughter time to adjust and give us all time together. I feel in my heart that I'm doing the right thing! What do you think?
2006-12-07 01:46:15 · 4 answers · asked by Bel 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I am in a similar situation. I am a mother with a 4 year old. I have been dating my BF for about a year and a half. We do love each other and at first, I was not sure how he would be able to handle the situation and I was scared of falling in love, not knowing if this situation was going to be right for my child. But I realized that he is a great guy and is going to try his best to help us and care for both of us.
I know that your child is the most important thing in your life, as it should be, but if you think that the situation will be secure and safe for you and your child, you have to take that chance. You also have to live for you. There are plenty of people out there that have step parents.
I say go for it. Just make sure everything is in place. Just make sure you talk to your daughter and make her as comfortable as possible. She should adjust just fine.
Good luck.
2006-12-07 01:56:58 · answer #1 · answered by jam_psb 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello, before you move in with this man ask him what his long term intentions are with you. The reason I ask this is because you have a child in your life that will be affected by your actions in a direct way.
You don't want to enter a situation and end up having to move out, this can create an unstable environment for your daughter on the other hand if marrying you, (if that's what you want) in the long run is in the cards, then proceed.
Good luck
2006-12-07 09:56:27 · answer #2 · answered by dymps 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all how long have you actually known him? Have you met his family and friends? Do any of YOUR personal friends know him or anything about him? Do a criminal background check on him. He may be the real thing....he could also be a convicted felon or a child molestor. Check into him VERY WELL before living with him or giving him any kind of access to your child.
2006-12-07 09:53:15 · answer #3 · answered by mazey1967 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you love him move in with him...But think carefull because you'll be exposing your daughter to another man and if ur relationship turns out the wrong way then u'll hurt ur daughter!
2006-12-07 09:49:49 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋