I met this amazing guy!!!! We found eachother during the craziest of times....neither one of us expectected or wanted anything....But it grew into something. Our time together is so nice....he treats me like gold....We've told eachother that we love one another and I know I truely do! He just asked me and my daughter to move in with him. It means a lot to me because now I know he's ready for a commitment with me....and it means even more that he's willing to take on a woman with a child....and accepting that I have a child with another man....My daughter has met him a few times....she likes him....but she's only 3...so doesn't really know too much about whats going on...maybe more than I realize....If I do choose to move in with him....it's not going to be until March. I think that will give my daughter time to adjust and give us all time together. I feel in my heart that I'm doing the right thing! What do you think?
2006-12-07 01:45:37 · 6 answers · asked by Bel 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
IT seems like you know what you're doing. I don't think you need any advice here. Keep up with it; You sound like a Great mother!
2006-12-07 01:48:13 · answer #1 · answered by October Sky 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your first few sentences sound exactly like me and my bf though it's only been a little over a month... but after we met and started hanging out, we realized very quickly that we could be perfect for each other... :) I also have a young child (6 yr old son) and they have not met yet, I'm waiting to see how things go first because if it doesn't work out I don't want the kid to have to go through the breakup too.
Anyway here is my thoughts on moving in with someone... personally... I would NOT move in with a bf unless we were engaged with the wedding date set! You either commit fully or not at all, and just moving in together does not mean any true commitment. If you have not discussed marriage then that's a conversation you definitely need to have BEFORE moving in together and make sure you are on the same page.
Anyway congratulations, it sounds like you've found one of the good ones :) Bottom line, if you have any doubts about going through with the move, don't do it... but if the next couple months go by and you still feel it is right then best wishes to all of you!!
2006-12-07 09:56:49 · answer #2 · answered by zmj 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's a good start, but don't confuse the child that he is his real father or anything, tell her the truth always because she will hate you when grows up and finds out the real truth. Also be careful your new b/f doesnt hurt/make fun of you child when not in your presence. You know best, but still it's a good option since you can't be single all your life.
2006-12-07 09:50:39 · answer #3 · answered by skullmaniac16 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think that u should do what ur heart tells u but i also think that u are doing a good thing by waiting for him and ur daughter to get better aquainted and i know this might sound crazy or u might even say what tha hell does she kno but watch and be careful who u bring ur children around
2006-12-07 09:54:03 · answer #4 · answered by gurl_balla14 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if it feels right in your heart then go for it! just make sure you protect your girl good enough - there are a lot of weirdos out there
2006-12-07 09:48:37 · answer #5 · answered by 42 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It all sounds ok. God help you and your little girl.
2006-12-07 09:53:18 · answer #6 · answered by Marina 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋