Is any one else having this problem? Two boys and they want the same EXACT things (mostly my 3 yr old really). So my husband & I have to get them the same toys so they don't freak out on what the other gets! ANNOYING! We did get them a few different things but I just know there will be crying by my 3 year old. Just venting - I guess.
2006-12-07 01:40:58 · 15 answers · asked by Mum2Boys 4 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
Yeah right! Sharing??? Since when does Santa bring toys to share?
2006-12-07 01:46:24 · update #1
I have two girls 3yrs apart. We had the same problem with our youngest.As she got a little older she grew out of it and wanted toys that were all her own.So I wouldn't worry to much, its probably just a phase.
2006-12-07 01:55:58 · answer #1 · answered by patty m 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes my soon to be 3 year old and my 6 year old both boys do the same thing , So for Christmas i bought them their own toys in their age groups and a couple of the same ones if i knew there would be a fight over that certain toy just different colors so they can tell them apart and be happy cause it is their favorite color
2006-12-07 02:00:32 · answer #2 · answered by Tara 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have 3 boys of my own. They are 4, 3 and 2 years old. I know how u feel. My kids did this as well. It's like one always feels like the other kid got something better (even if it is the same thing) so they fight over it. My kids don't do it as much now so I'm sure it's just a phase and your little boy will grow out of it eventually. Good Luck and Merry Christmas =)
2006-12-07 01:47:24 · answer #3 · answered by Danelle 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-17 22:44:15 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Santa does not bring toys..you buy them and have complete control over what they get. Buy sharing toys..things that are purchased for both of them. If it's a present..put both their names on it. The more they get their way the worse it will get. Ignore hissy fits and don;t give in.
2006-12-07 02:02:00 · answer #5 · answered by KathyS 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No its not unusual but the 3 year old needs to learn that he can't always have what he wants. Find a 3 year old class then he will learn to share by his peers.
Don't punish the 5 year old for defending himself, if the 3 year old gets is way now it will be worse 2 years from now.
2006-12-07 01:45:14 · answer #6 · answered by Tapestry6 7 · 3⤊ 1⤋
I have two sisters and we had to get the same things, because we would all beleive that that one was getting more affection/attention if they got something else or something different- we grew out of it quickly. My best advise is that sit your sons down and tell them that no one is getting more or less- but both of them are individual and that they need /want different things. Make sure you give them a clear distinction between themselves and gifts/presents/tys ect..
good luck
2006-12-07 01:53:10 · answer #7 · answered by connermcshane 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
been having the same problem with all my kids even the eldest is 16 best way to deal with it is to make sure that they don't get every thing they ask for and accept what they have even if u can afford to buy them every thing they ask for
2006-12-07 01:50:21 · answer #8 · answered by tariq h 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Your 3 yr old looks up to his big brother and will always want to have and do what his big brother does. My 7yr old wants and tries to do everything my 15yr old son has or does. I have to keep reminding the oldest to remember his brother looks up to him and only wants to be like him.
2006-12-07 01:55:26 · answer #9 · answered by rottn30 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Just buy one of each toy, it will be a life lesson if you think about it. They will have to learn to share and improve on their communication and patience skills. AND it will save you money.
2006-12-07 01:53:58 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋