i met my bf over net n having a smooth relationship for the past 3 years. in the last 1 year, he always jokes in such a way that hurts me & later says sorry. yesterday he told me to go away from him & choose someone better. he is not saying the reason why he want this. his behaviour was so rude but his face expression was normal. all these happened on chat. he told such things before also but later said that was joke. this time i m serious. i decided to stop all contacts with him. i m not a toy on whom he can play this way. but i love a him a lot. i know he also love me a lot.
pls, tell me what does this mean? does he really want to breakup. i m dying here. i dont think so i can love any other person any more........
2006-12-07 01:37:59 · 11 answers · asked by innocent_gal 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
hes trying to get you to break up with him so he doesnt have to do it
2006-12-07 01:39:48 · answer #1 · answered by Tina 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The pain subsides after about 3 months. Trust me on this. I've been through heartbreak a zillion times. You'll respect yourself better and so will he, if you cut ties with him. He doesn't respect you at all if he's treating you that way. Walk away because he's an abusive ***. If you stayed with him he'll just keep testing you by being more abusive as time progresses, depending on how much you will put up with. Then he'll STILL walk away. Think how that will make you feel when you put up with all his crap and he leaves anyway. I can guarantee you he will still leave even though you remain nice because it's happened to me too often and I never learn my lesson. I think that the more I can endure, the more they will appreciate me. Nope. Walk away, sweetie. Tell yourself you're a princess and you only deserve the best treatment and you'll get it...but from someone better!
2006-12-07 09:42:37 · answer #2 · answered by Neophyte 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just tell him straight up if he wants you to go or not, and if he says yes, quit talking to him for a couple weeks and see how things go. Relationships online are hard because you can't tell what someone means through text, but my and my guy were dating online 2 years before we got together... now we're getting married, and we had rough times as well...
2006-12-07 09:41:31 · answer #3 · answered by October Sky 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should find someone else! It sounds like he is probably trying to find a way out of the relationship! Plus, don't date guys on the Internet, you can find someone better and in your area! Internet relationships really are not worth it in my opion, cause you never really get to see the guy! Good luck!
2006-12-07 09:43:36 · answer #4 · answered by ~*Sweet Pea*~ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he is afraid of the relationship. He may not know what to do next and is pushing you away so he does not have to do anything.
You might want to reach out to him and talk to him about his fears. If you are willing to work with him, you might be able to help him get over his fears.
Take care,
Troy
2006-12-07 09:42:41 · answer #5 · answered by tiuliucci 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hes insecure about himself. and chances are he's still talking or doing online dating with other people too. doesnt sound like u have the trust in him that u should after 3 years of dating. i think u should move on.
2006-12-07 09:41:01 · answer #6 · answered by Dink 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should have a very serious talk with him, tell him to stop joking like that, i mean you have been seeing him for a while now, he shouldnt joke like that. Be serious with him, & if he loves you like you love him he will understand
2006-12-07 09:44:24 · answer #7 · answered by dee bee007 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he dont give a sh_t about you.. coz' if he loves you he woudnt be playing with feelings like that.. what i would suggest is talk to him and let him know that somtimes he hurts your feelings by saying such things.. talk to him and try to work things out, but if he wont cooperate then he f_ckin *****! it might work..
2006-12-07 09:44:58 · answer #8 · answered by Peep STyLL 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He disrepects you and want him???? He's playing games with you and you are falling for it. Go find someone who truly makes you happy and doesn't play with your head. There are plenty of fish in the sea. It's remarkable how we all recover from love and learn to love again.
2006-12-07 09:41:45 · answer #9 · answered by smeezleme 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my personal opinon he is very insecure of his feelings and he doesn't want to hurt you but at the same time he wants to back out, so he would say anything to hurt you mama, thats not love and don't go back it would only hurt you.... because if he really loves u or care he wouldn't hurt u.... belive me that's the truth
2006-12-07 09:49:03 · answer #10 · answered by cherydipz 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he's just being mean on purpose in order for you to leave him. if he is not wanting you, you really don't want him either
2006-12-07 09:42:14 · answer #11 · answered by bcdma@sbcglobal.net 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋