Update...1st night?

Question

I followed all of your advice...went to walmart got some newborn bottles....some good formula....he drank it and was quiet for about 2 minutes....I did burp him....I tryed everything....rocking him,feeding him,i bought a pacifier, i tryed laying with him, i even put a movie on....all he was doing was crying and neither one of us slept...Now at 9 am he finally falls asleep.....We are in a hotel and becuase he was crying so much the people next door thought that i was abusing him and called the managers of the hotel and they came to check on us and I just said that he was crying alot. Now I really need help....everything...I feel bad because im asking for so much but I really need it....My mom is flying in today but i dont know how much she is going to be able to do for me....so help is wanted! Thanks

Answer 1

you are in a problem indeed, be calm, try to adjust.

Answer 2

First off, you might need to change his formula thats what i think. I know what its like to be where you are and my son was the same way, i changed his formula to similac alimentum and it did wonders. His little tummy probably cannot digest the formula you are feeding him. Apply for WIC they will pay for all your baby food. Make sure you call social services and apply for food stamps, child care assistance, and medicaid. If you havent already. Make sure you get the mom for child support. Even if she cannot pay, it will build up into back child support. Dont worry about people knocking on your door, you know your not hurting him so you have nothing and no one to answer too. Tell them you have a new baby and thats how babies are. If you have a swing use it. If not head to a second hand store and find a really cheap baby swing or bouncer, babies usually love these things. Make sure at night you keep noise down and lights down. Try giving him a warm bath each night and a clean diaper, along with a warm blanket that hes wrapped in and of course a warm bottle. If hes kicking his legs or pulling them towards his tummy, or being quiet and all of the sudden crying, that usually means he has gas, if thats the case lay him on the bed and push his legs up to his tummy, almost like riding a bike. If its gas this will help that problem. make sure you burp him after every feeding This is very important. If you need any help or anything i can do please email me. Im a mom and step mom of 4 boys and one on the way :) Goodluck to you. and you will do just fine being a daddy is a wonderful thing.

Answer 3

I AM SO SORRY! I did not read the background on this one and since my daughter-in-laws name is Joey I just assumed that you were a woman! I feel like a retard for telling you to breastfeed your baby! I am SO sorry! I guess I should delete everything that I wrote except that it is good advice IF you were a woman! I am just so sorry!
If you would still like to contact me I will be more than willing to try to help you with this tough situation. I am just so sorry for touting breastfeeding when obviously since wet-nurses are a thing of the past, is not an option for you! Forgive the dumb advice!
I have deleted the portion of my post that was about breastfeeding. At this point I guess I have to agree with those who have said that perhaps you have just not found the perfect formula for him. My youngest daughter is adopted and they would not let me try to relactate to nurse her because of a cancer scare that I had. I tried several formulas and ended up using Carnations "Fresh Start". They say it is the most like breast milk and it sure helped my little girl. The other thing that I think is really worth trying is the Playtex Nursers. They virtually eliminate any air that could get in your baby's tummy. Also since you are using a clean bag each time there are no bottles to try to clean. I used the nursers that were tilted and they were wonderful.
Good luck and again I am SO sorry that I steered you in the totally wrong direction!
Take care and good luck
Lady T~

Answer 4

it'll be o.k. sweetie.
the first night i had my little bean in the hospital my husband went home to take care of the dog. he fell asleep and i kept waiting for him to get back. the baby just kept crying and crying and i had no idea what to do. i was so sad b/c i was his mommy and i was supposed to be able to fix it, ya know??
it's o.k. though. you'll learn.
just remember that babies eat ALOT!!! well, they eat a little bit all the time. does that make sense?? so, if you fed him and he was fine for a bit and then started fussing again, then he may just need to eat some more, or be burped more, or maybe he just has something to say and needs to get it out of his system.
it'll be o.k. just keep him cozy and fed and you'll be o.k.
i'm glad your mom is coming to help you:)

you guys will make it. in a few weeks this time will feel like a blur and you will have developed this amazing bond with your little boy. i promise.

also, just remember never shake a baby. it can kill them. there's a difference between rocking and shaking. also, if he is crying so much that you can't take it, it's o.k. to lie him down and just take a time out. i know lots of parents who have had to just lay the baby down and walk away for a few minutes. of course, they go back to them, but sometimes you just need to tune them out for a moment.

take care.

Answer 5

Sounds like your baby is colic so my advice would be try changing his formula again to maybe a soy based formula if not try changing his bottles to less air the vent air bottles are the best they prevent from alot of air going in his system if that doesnt work I would take him to the doctor and have them evaluate him for Gastritis alot of babies get that

Answer 6

Wow. Sounds like my daughters first day home. I was going to cry with her. Luckily we figured it all out. I don't know what you packed with you when your girlfriend kicked the two of you out... but if you have a bouncy chair use it. If you don't and you have some extra money, buy one. They are like taking the baby for a ride in the car. My children always fell asleep in theirs. You are in New York right? What kind of help are you looking for? I can't do much (I live in Utah) but I will try to do anything I can. Just let me know. [e-mail] or you can IM me.

Answer 7

Good luck! My sister was like that - my mom even said goodbye to all her friends when she found out she was pregnant with me. They used to walk my sister up and down the hall the whole night, because if they stopped, she started crying again. I also had a friend whose baby wouldn't stop crying and she found out she was giving him the wrong milk formula. Have you seen a doctor yet?

Answer 8

Remember, when the baby was inside, he was 'held' in a tighter space, and so wrapping him snug in a blanket (swaddling) will help him feel safer. Have you tried that milocon (burp/gas reliever)? That worked wonders with mine. Talk to him. He knows your voice. Maybe sing, or hum, or just talk. Rub his back up and down, side to side, or in a circle. Maybe he is having some breathing problems. My little one had to sleep in his carseat for about a week because his little nose was stuffed up, and he wasn't getting enough oxygen moving. So we put his carseat in his bed, put things around so it wouldn't tip over, and I checked on him constantly. Remember, don't put any pillows near him, because he cannot control his body to move away from them if he gets his face in them.

Good luck!

Answer 9

Try the swaddleing thing...it really does work wonders... and i don't know why little ones are so easy to get their days and nights mixed up but they do it. Good luck to you...

Answer 10

maybe shes allergic to milk... she might be loscate intorlence talk with your docter about the crying and she might also be colic

Answer 11

a friend of mine would give her baby Camiloetea