I dont know what else to do...?

Question

I live with my uncle. He supports me financially. He put me through college, and still paying for my grad school. Recently he's become an as-s. He insults me all the time, and calls me names. I guess it could it could amount to verbal abuse. On one hand i feel like i should respect him and lay low because he is helping me out. On the other, i feel like **** all the time and i cant take this anymore. He has been physically abusive at times. Im 22, and cant really afford a place of my own yet. You know he is only nice when he is drunk. other than that its like living with satan. I wish that one, day,i can move out at night and not even tell him. He is an ********

Answer 1

You are an adult. Move out and stand on your own too feet. Know one should take abuse like that and it is time for you to be independent anyway!

Answer 2

Is there anyway there is a financial assistance course at your grad school. How about social assistance while you are finishing up your education.. These are things worth looking into.
It is hard to be a hostage in a home with a drunk.. This is so bad for your spirit .
The uncle drinks for a reason.. he is upset about his life or lack of it... he resents everything and everybody for his own reasons.. He is deeply hurt and hasn't faced it or let it go.
This is not the positive atmosphere you need in your life.
If you have a part-time job , look on campus to see if you can share a place with someone or room and board somewhere...
This is not a safe haven for you and his abuse will only get worse. verbally and physically....

Answer 3

Something must have happened recently for him to turn like this, it may be related to you or it may not, but none the less he is taking it out on you. Obviously it was his choice to support your education, don't feel guilty about taking it. Now that you are in grad school you should be able to get a job too. Grad school is not all that demanding. I think it would make you feel better about yourself. Grad school is only two years, it won't be long before you are out and on your own. Try to stay out of the house as much as possible.

Answer 4

You need to get out as soon as possible. You don't need your own place. There are plenty of people out there looking for room mates. We rented a room to a college student for 100 a month. You could work part time at McDonalds and pay that much. You need to get out though before something really bad happens.

Answer 5

This is a n important matter. In my family the thing is that whoevers house you live at thats the where you follow the rules! If you want to move out get a job or whatever you have to do. Get your own place and make your own RULES!

Answer 6

This is a tough one. I guess the best thing I can tell you is to go with your gut and do what you feel is best for you and your situation.

The sooner you can get out, the better and I would start making positive moves in that direction.

Answer 7

You can move out but obviously you don't want to. Get a room mate, GET A JOB, move out if he is hurting you.

Answer 8

do you have other relatives that can help you? relatives that he has'nt met or you just can report because he's already abusing you that's you decsicion make up your mind but if you report him and got no place to go just find one of your relatives that can help you

Answer 9

TRY TALKING TO HIM WHEN HE IS SOBER AND TELL HIM HOW MUCH YOU HAVE APPRECIATED ALL HE HAS DONE FOR YOU! ASK HIM IF YOU CAN HELP HIM NOW! TELL HIM YOU LOVE HIM BUT IT HURTS YOU TO SEE WHAT HE IS DOING TO HIMSELF! HE OBVIOUSLY NEEDS HELP!