ok i did nothing wrong, i was faithful to him and he keeps lying to me and sneaking behind my back, like hanging out with his one friend who is a baddd influence on him, and also coming home high:(!!!! but then when i confront him about it, he always finds out a way to turn it around to make me feel guilty for not trusting him....ugh! sorry, i am only venting... this is my husband i am talking about, i am 8 months pregnant and he wont stop smoking, mostly cigs... but i really dont like it at all. but he keeps saying that once the baby cames, THEN he'll stop smoking and that hes just stressed out... has this ever happened to anyone? do you think he might stop once he sees his son... he really loves him... and guys please be nice to your wives when they are pregnant!!!!!!! let her trust you... ugh, i feel like a detective all the time tryingto find out what hes up to... and i usually always find something...
2006-12-07 01:02:13 · 17 answers · asked by jessica c 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
ok maybe not all of them... but i really dont deserve this... and by the way, he did change before we got married.... and them he met this guy at work who was like his old friends that he used to hangout with, and hes back to how he used to act.... he is an angel when he is not with them.... and he even said he struggles with peer pressure... so i dont get why he goes out with them... and no getting even is not the answer, he trusts me and if i ever went out, he wouldnt care, he knows i am too goood to do anythingto hurt him...
2006-12-07 01:26:36 · update #1
All guys are not jerks, but yours definitely sounds like one. The stuff he is doing is not right. As for the bad influence friend. Your husband is an adult with a sound mind correct? Then his friend can not influence him to do anything he doesn't want to do. His friend can hold the joint but he cant make your husband toke and pull it into his lungs. As for the cigs, as long as he doesn't do it around you while your pregnant or your son when he is born then you do not have anything to complain about. Stop playing detective, if this is what you have to do in your marriage I am sorry to say you do not have much of a marriage. A marriage is made up of trust, love and respect. You love him, but it doesn't seem like you have any trust or respect. I would be looking over this relationship and wondering if this is really what I wanted. Good Luck to you..
2006-12-07 01:09:09 · answer #1 · answered by Issym 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I understand your situation but you say "ugh, i feel like a detective all the time tryingto find out what hes up to"..........so why don't you stop looking? If you ask a question you won't like the answer to, you can't necessarily blame the response can you?
He is letting off some steam before the big day arrives, it's only natural but I can, as I said, see your point. He should be being more considerate towards you but maybe, just maybe you pushing is driving him further?
2006-12-07 01:07:10 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-14 05:04:49 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hun, let the man smoke his cigarettes, you got bigger sh!t to concern yourself with. He's feeling like he's lost control, the harder you push the harder he's going to push back. He's going to be a daddy, that's huge, and scarey. And you are having a hormone rush so take up meditating or something.
I'm going to guess, he got high before you got married, right? He hung out with this friend before you got married? He did lots of stuff before you got married? Now it's a concern for you? Why? You think he'll suddenly grow up 'cause he has a kid coming? He's going to miraculously morph into some ideal husband you envisioned before you married him? Maybe, miracles happen everyday, but I wouldn't count on it. Thinking you're going to change a guy after he's married is asking for it, getting pregnant is not too smart either. If he was a jerk before you married him chances are he'll stay a jerk.
Not all guys are jerks.
2006-12-07 01:20:59 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
you can drive yourself crazy by always woundering if hes telling the truth or not . and as far as his habbits well he has to quit for him self or he wont quit that baby is already her its just under cover
see i know what your going thru because i live with a liar one of the biggest at that and one thing i can suggest is to give him a taste of it just to show how it is he wont like it but tell him that he either stops or your going to adapt or leave him ive been with my liar for 8 years now and the lies have gone way down
depending on what he lies about you might be able to help him i mean if its always about hangign with the boys then maybe you should give him one nite a week and then you do the same he wont like it
or if its substance abuse then make him think that your going to do it to again he wont like it
just try doing it back to him so that he can see how it feels
hope this helps you a lil
julie
2006-12-07 01:20:43 · answer #5 · answered by JEWLZZ 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh no no no no no, all women say "I didnt do anything wrong" But you know that you are lying. Everything that happens in a relationship has two sides to it. And if he did something so did you. So dont ask why all guys are jerks, not all of us are. And I will say this the next time you want to blame men, Look to thyne own as$.()
2006-12-07 01:05:53 · answer #6 · answered by Saint 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Dad's get stressed out too! I know the feeling, but you just need to remember that once the baby does arrive, he'll be spending more time with both of you...........
Good luck anyway
2006-12-07 01:06:13 · answer #7 · answered by loop_ee_lou 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He sounds like a keeper. I wish he had a brother. Guys don't change period. Good luck with him though and the baby
2006-12-07 01:06:04 · answer #8 · answered by comic_bob 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ur guy just sounds like a jackass. not all men r like that so don't stereotype. u'll just create a whole new problem of your own.
2006-12-07 01:04:37 · answer #9 · answered by blah_blah 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
am not sure he will stop ya, me too everyday i say gonna stop it, but the more i think about stopping the more i smoke...
2006-12-07 01:09:10 · answer #10 · answered by Agent_Double 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋