How to deal with an Evil Sister in Law?

Question

My Husband told me not to buy her daughters presents and I think it's because of his wife. I think she's just jelous that she ain't pretty or slim like me, I think she hates me because she's ugly. She hates me because she won't let her daughters dress pretty, she dresses them like tomboys and that's wrong. She got mad at me because I tried to pretty them up with cute outfits, she is just a hate filled troll that's all she is and she's manipulating my brother. Why won't she let her daughters dress pretty, why do they have to look like guys all thet time, maybe she's a lesbo.

Opps typo, I meant my brother, not my husband. LOL, silly me.

Answer 1

Wow...you are a piece of work...who died and made you queen? I think she hates you because you are a stuck-up, judgemental b*itch who needs to mind her own business....stay the hell outta their family life and find a way to be content with your own...

Answer 2

As you see the attitude that your sister-in-law has, the best idea would be to not feed into it. If and when you talk to her, you must be completely present with what is going on and see the craziness in the way that she is acting and what she is doing to your brother. Have a sit down with your brother and sister-in-law (once they calm down from the tantrum over your family not buying them a house) and your husband to have an open discussion about what is bothering them. It is not your obligation to support them, but as family you should be on the same team in being honest about how everyone feels and helping one another. One of the beauties of family relationships is that you will always love family. She may not be your blood family, but for the sake of your brother, you need to make nice to keep the peace. She may be an evil witch of a sister-in-law but telling your brother so will only cause more backlash from her. Proceed at your own discretion in telling them things that you don't like about what they are saying and doing. It would be like putting your hand in a vicious tiger's cage. You have to have a strategy to tame the beast. Throwing pebbles at it won't help. I would suggest being as calm and cautious as you can be. Proceed one babystep at a time. Be advised, even tamed animals bite back.

Answer 3

You are assuming she is evil????
Maybe she doesn't want to look like you for some reason... Don't put all this on her.. you have some ownership here too...
How and what she chooses for her children is up to her...
They belong to her not you and if you try to push too hard... she will push back...
Why don't you offer to take her to a spa and have her nails done instead of her children.... She is your sis in law so you had better come off your high horse and stop Trying to control the situation...
I know you have good intentions, but she might not see it this way...
Perhaps before trying to outfit her children... you should spend a little more time with her and find out where she is coming from.....
Also, you must learn not to judge so quickly and attach labels to people... you need to work on becoming a better person.
Look at the person in your mirror in the morning and see who she really is and what she is made up of.....

Answer 4

Well... bet you're glad you got THAT off your chest!

You can't do anything to help the children look feminine unless when they come to stay with you they can wear girly stuff.

Patch things up with your evil sister in law so the children can stay with you sometimes and when they do, let them wear pretty girly outfits if they want to.

Don't think the mother is a lesbo, she is probably protecting her children, dressing them up in, what she believes is appropriate clothing for their young ages.

AND.. give your brother a break. he obviously loves the both of you and you are both making his life HELL.

Answer 5

Your sister-in-law and brother are raising their kids, not you. It's up to them what their children wear, not you.

Your version of "pretty" seems to include short skirts and thongs. That's not pretty, that's SEXUAL. Your brother's kids are 10 and 12. I cannot think of any father that wants his 10 and 12 year old daughters advertising their sexuality.

I don't think it's your sister in law manipulating your brother, I think it's the two of them deciding this together. Respect their wishes and butt out.

Answer 6

Maybe she dresses them that way because she had a similar upbringing and she can't decided what looks nice so its easier just to dress them as boys.

Maybe you should sit down with her and suggest that she should dress them as girls and not as boys. Do it in a calm way and maybe she will she will listen to you. Also maybe because you have good taste and dress her children in a nice way, maybe that intimidates her and she feels bad because she can't do the same thing.

Its worth sitting with her in order to discuss it

Answer 7

~Don't deal with her. The way she dresses her children, the way she looks, the way she treats your brother, all of those things don't concern you.
They are HER kids and since she has children, I doubt she's a "lesbo."
Maybe she thinks you're too conceited and too good for everyone else?~

Answer 8

Keep your nose out of her marriage and take care of your own. And it's not up to you to dress her daughters, dress your own. I bet she doesn't give you a second thought. But it seems to me you give her an awful lot of thought. You may be the one that's jealous. Get a hobby and leave her alone. She sounds great to me just sick of your s*it.

Answer 9

Maybe move away from the problem or maybe you need a new interest like getting on with your own life as everyone is never going to please you ,,,I have a brother that is married to a weird person but hey she seems to suit his taste,,,so be it,

Answer 10

Poison