we have alot in common and share many interests. his job is very demanding and stressful. he speaks perfect english.we spoke on the phone about 4 times but w/ the time dist is is hard to connect-for awhile he was telling me how he was always thinking of me-he hasn;t said it for about a month-I say it to him but he doesn;t respond in kind- he still e-mails me and asked me to go on vacation with him. he says we should start talking again on the phone but he says he's so busy.
am I reading too much into this or do you think it means something that he stopped saying he thinks of me and misses me. w/ his work it is basically a last minute thing for him to go away so it isn;t definite.
would I guy continue to e-mail if there was no interest? would he just respond just because he's nice?
2006-12-07 00:50:06 · 4 answers · asked by ronnie 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
European men are very charming and gentle, and it is not like them to tell you to buzz off in those terms.
They are lovers not fighters and they respond totally different than westerners....
He is politely saying that he is busy and doesn't really want to hurt your feelings... he wants a relationship with someone he can see, feel and touch.. in other words in person... He sounds very sensible and grounded and is taught manners and to be polite... so if you are not intending to live in Italy... you will remain only pen pals when he has time for you.....
You are reading ways too much in this... you can not base any relationship on the phone or computer... I wish people would get real....
Human contact... one on one,. so you can get to know the person, really and truly...
People now fantasize about this dream romance... Buy a novel if that is what you are looking for... Don't be so gullible, so needy, so desperate that you make up the connection in your mind after talking to someone for a while....
You have lots to learn.....
Say Ciao.. and leave it alone....
2006-12-07 00:59:09 · answer #1 · answered by doclakewrite 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you should go away with him.
the difference between men and women is that we need constant reassurances of passion/ love/ feelings, but after the initial 'getting to know you' period, men are done with all of that.
He has said he misses you a few times, and chances are, he doesn't feel that he has to repeatedly say it. He is working quite hard at the moment and you really should be flattered that he wants to spend his time 'relaxing' with you.
You really need to look at the wider picture.. Actions speak louder than words. Many men are not the telephone type. Your itallian stallion would rather see you than speak to you on the phone.
My experience is that it is unlikely that a man would email you simply to be polite.
So, respond to his emails... cut out the "do you miss me" stuff, tell him you miss him (if you do) and accept any invitation for a vacation.
Try not to seek reassurances of his feelings all the time otherwise he wil run away and I am sure that he will not reply to your emails.
2006-12-07 09:00:58 · answer #2 · answered by Just me 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dunno, I Emailed my guy in UK from america. We chatted on the phone alot, and there was a time when he was really feeling down and all he did was work. I just waited for him.. Sometimes people just need time to theirselves.. Give it time. Wait for him if you care about him.. If he feels the same, he'll come around
2006-12-07 08:53:28 · answer #3 · answered by October Sky 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should try to set up some time to meet him and if he agrees even with his busy schedule then you'll know the ans to your question.
2006-12-07 09:02:45 · answer #4 · answered by Sexy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋