Ok ladies, please help me...My g/f broke up with me a couple months ago...I was heartbroken...I treated her great, but she said the line, "There was something missing"...and she didn't think I was the one. We dated for 6 months.. loved her. We got along great but I think her ex husband cheating on her(she has been divorced for 2 years) and her trust issues with men played apart in our breakup. Anyways, I sent her a card yesterday telling her I still think of her and miss the times we shared. I asked her in the card if we could have dinner sometime or just start by talking on the phone and see if that "spark" is still there. Should I call her? Wait for her to make the move? Send her a short email in a few days seeing if she has thought about it? I don't want to push her, but I really want to see if there is anything left. Things ended so abruptly that I am still torn...thanks for the advice
2006-12-07 00:43:23 · 16 answers · asked by justinhanks2000 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think you should wait some time and send her a message like.....I will always care for you and if ever want to get together I would love to see you.........then leave the ball in her park and do not message her again unless she contacts you. Women break it off with men for many reasons. My last boyfriend I loved. I know we would have been great together. I love his personality ,he is 50 and I am in my early 40's. He is so busy with work during the past half a year with a new company that is taking off and now his is talking about going back to school. I really want someone who is looking towards retirement and going to be at home more. My first marriage was with a man who climbed the latter of success and was never at home so.........Maybe if you get to see her again you could ask her what she is looking for in a mate. Maybe she has a particular issue with something going on in your life.
2006-12-07 01:06:05 · answer #1 · answered by lefty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your mistake was telling her in the card that you wanted to see if the 'spark' was still there. This is something you should have kept to yourself because this puts pressure on her.
She may not want the 'spark' to be there. She broke up with you remember, she has presumably moved on because you don't mention that she has made any contact with you.
Perhaps her failed marriage did play a part in her break up with you. Perhaps you treated her too good and she considered your relationship too good to be true and thought to end it before it went downhill.
Just leave her alone for a little while. give her the space she craved for when she finished with you. If she agrees to go out to dinner with you, go but do not put any pressure on her re: spark/ getting back together etc. Just have a good time and see where things eventually lead.
2006-12-07 00:51:39 · answer #2 · answered by Just me 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the best advice i can give u is to relax for abt 2 days, and give her time to think about it. From a girls point of view, honestly speaking - Past relationships always influence the present and there is no denying it
so give a lil time for her to ponder over the card,
Call her in 3 days, and have a honest conversation with her, and see where it goes!~! Another email would not be the best idea
talk it out 1 on 1 on the phone, thats the best i suggest
also, all the best
if u love her, go for it
2006-12-07 00:47:55 · answer #3 · answered by Franky 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave her alone. She broke up with you and basically told you that you don't do it for her. If she does not respond to the card, that should be the last she hears from you. Why would you even consider bothering her again? As a girl, I would be irritated if the guy I dumped kept trying to talk to me. If I got a card and did not respond, it would mean I did not want to stay in touch and keep the discussion going. I would hope that he took the hint and left me alone. Not trying to be mean or harsh, but it sounds like she has moved on and you should too. You should find someone who loves you completely.
2006-12-07 00:55:08 · answer #4 · answered by schweetums 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry your heart is breaking right now! In my opinion she just didn't feel the connection with you.It sounds like she needs to work through some trust issues before she can move into a healthy relationship.I would let her make the move.I wouldn't call her or anything.You reached out to her so she knows the door is open.Give her a few weeks.I don't think the "spark" is there for her with you and I'm sorry to say that! I think in a few weeks I would try and talk to her and let her know you care and you need answers to your questions before you can move on with your life.She owes you that?
2006-12-07 00:51:04 · answer #5 · answered by daklove2002 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh thats sad. ok. this is my opinion. you should understand her situation. she married before and divorce. its not a good thing & she cant be blame if she had a trust issue with men now after all she went through her past experienced. as a women, i think, we women we do love men who pays attention on us. men who's never gives up. if u reallly really loves her before & still do ....then keep on trying. never give up. u got nothing to loose by doing that.
pursuade her, convince her. tell her that dont let her past experienced stop her from being happy again in life. tell her at least gives a try. maybe she needs time as she havent heal from the divorce issue.. give her time. just do not ever ever give up. i can feel that u love her a lot as u r wrote in here. giving the explaination. if this is not love, what is it then? try the best what u can do ok...
after all time will tell...good luck & best wishes.
2006-12-07 00:54:50 · answer #6 · answered by meemee8403 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If there was something missing then I'm sure that something will still be missing now. I'd move on if I were you. Who says she won't say that again say 2 yrs down the road. You could also find someone who has all the qualities that you look for in a woman and you have all the qualities that she looks for in a man.
2006-12-07 00:47:38 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Since you sent her a card, you made the last move. So, technically, the ball is in her court. If I were you, I would wait it out to see what she does. I know it's going to be difficult, but you don't want to get in contact with her to soon and scare her away. Let her be the one to make contact with you. Good luck!
2006-12-07 00:47:25 · answer #8 · answered by BeezKneez 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the cardboard does not sound like a bad concept. even possibly put in it the alternative for dinner plans. do not deliver a modern-day with something sentimental approximately your relationship. that's purely creepy. And if she's not fascinated in any respect, you will destroy any possibility of being waiting to be acquaintances.
2016-10-17 22:41:31 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey,
sure, why not call her? I would--also if you do call her do it without any reservations! And by all means start getting out there and dating again, just because this one didnt work out, doesnt mean there isnt one out there 4 u! Just be patient because marriage is hard work! Dont rush and enjoy the single life!
2006-12-07 00:52:17 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋