I'm old school when it comes to business attire and our office has gotten very laxed. We have a new young female co-worker that often wears pantyhose with her outfits unlike the rest of the women in our office. I want to encourage her to continue dressing professional by not going barelegged and tossing the hose like every one else has done. I want to compliment her on the way she dresses and how professional she looks when she wears hosiery without seeming like a pervert. Any suggestions?
2006-12-07 00:40:56 · 14 answers · asked by sandman3022 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Tell you you hope the way she dresses like a professional rubs off on the rest of the woman. If she asks what you mean tell her how you feel about the hose and how it looks more professional than bare legs. Nothing perverted about that!
I agree with you bare legs look less professional than hose and I am a woman!
2006-12-07 00:50:12 · answer #1 · answered by c0mplicated_s0ul 5 · 4⤊ 1⤋
You could make a generic comment about the lax dress code (in the office) without mentioning specifics or people.
I'm sure she's quite aware of her appearance vs. others in the office anyway. She chooses to dress that way bc that's how she feels best. I don't understand your need to mention it to her unless you have an ulterior motive.
I would NOT bring up the hosiery thing at all or refer to HER in any way, shape or form. Women are extremely good at picking up signals and your mention of her hosiery could set off red flags in her head - don't do it. She might think you're a perv or going to be hitting on her and she may speak to management about it.
OK - I just read some of your other Q A's, you seem to have a fetish for hosiery - keep that to your spare time, not the office (that is if you value your job).
2006-12-07 03:58:26 · answer #2 · answered by Lake Lover 6 · 1⤊ 2⤋
You man NOT mention her panty hose! Tch-tch. But she would appreciate being told how you feel, since she goes to a lot of trouble to dress properly. Say to her: "I can't help noticing how perfectly you dress for work. Not everyone makes the effort to look professional these days!" Okeedoke? And I'm with you - a person looks more professional with a complete outfit.
2006-12-07 01:12:22 · answer #3 · answered by Miz Teri 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dress up like a clown, tell her what you think, then if it's not taken well say you were just kidding. while on the surface your "compliment" may seem harmless to some, it's underlying motivation would seem to be the proverbial carrot on the stick. rewarding her for your choice in office fashion. if you have something to say about office wear why not be open about it and ask the advice of your colleagues while voicing your opinion on the matter. people will address issues better when they are involved in the outcome. as for your feelings on the compliment, i am not one to hold back what i say but deem compliments to be a heartfelt gift of word and thought between friends, not a bone to get the dog to roll over. hope this helps
2006-12-07 01:10:06 · answer #4 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes, I agree - dress code is very important in the workplace. However, I am puzzled as to where you live - in my country, at this time of year, everyone wears three layers of woolly tights (even the men!) and the bare-legged look is only for yobettes out on a bender on a Saturday night.
2006-12-07 00:54:06 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-05 00:06:00 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In sexual harrassment class I learned I could say "That's a gorgeous outfit" but I could not say "You look gorgeous in that outfit". So fill in the blanks. There are not enough of us noticing each other today and breaking with a compiment. Good for you.
2006-12-07 00:44:05 · answer #7 · answered by donewiththismess 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'm sure you shouldn't comment other than saying how professional she looks. Nothing specific.
2006-12-07 00:43:46 · answer #8 · answered by Tom B 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Keep it very simple and nice.You have to be very careful that it doesn't make her uncomfortable.(for sexual harrassment reasons)Personally,I wouldn't risk it until you get to know her better and see how she feels about things of this nature.Sexual harrassment is so broad these days and can include anything that makes her uncomfortable.
2006-12-07 00:48:49 · answer #9 · answered by CML 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
you could post a blanket dress code for men and women.
2006-12-07 00:53:22 · answer #10 · answered by bonsai bobby 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋