My cousin (whose 19) has recently married his girlfriend (also 19) of 9 months. Do you think they are too young and not been together long enough?
2006-12-07 00:37:14 · 36 answers · asked by ~PartyGirl~ 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
No, I think it's beautiful that two young people decide to commit to each other in such a way. Marriage is a lifetime commitment so by getting married they are telling everyone around them that they want to share their lives together.
2006-12-10 04:30:43 · answer #1 · answered by sum2000mayyah 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not that long ago being married at 19 was the norm its only recently that waiting longer has been the way things are done! And who knows what makes a marriage work, i've got a couple of friends who were married at 16 and 17 and are still happily together, and some friends who married in their 30's who split up after 18 months!
I think they have as much chance as a couple who've been together longer. Good luck to them!
2006-12-07 20:09:19 · answer #2 · answered by libbyft 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm 17 and my boyfriend also 17 recently proposed to me (we've been together since we were 14 and have been in a "Serious Relationship" since we were 15. We plan to have a long-ish engagement and finish our studies (for me beauty therapy and him training in the Royal Marines) before we tie the knot. Our families are fine with it and accepted our relationship long before we became engaged and his parents said they could see it coming. So all is well and I don't think 19 is too young!! Think back to the past when everyone was tying the knot soooo young and stayed together forever and ever... :o) that's how it should be..I REALLY DON'T BELIEVE IN DIVORCE AT ALL!! (unless a relationship is abusive of course) but now I'm just babbling! Lol, bubbye xx
2006-12-10 04:10:16 · answer #3 · answered by beaujolais_fairy_blossom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They're a young couple. Too young? Without knowing them it's hard to say. 9 months isn't that long of a time, but both my parents and my sister were engaged in that amount of time- just not married. Odds aren't with your cousin, but some couples who marry young and with a short courtship do stay together and get a happily ever after. I hope he's one of those.
2006-12-07 06:18:54 · answer #4 · answered by K S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi there,
If it was my mother generation back to the 60s,I would have said no it is not a problem.My Mum was 18 when she married to my Dad and have me.Although it is not what I would recommend to anyone as you need to enjoy your life a bit longer,but it was not impossible!
However,this generation is different,they want everything immediately:fame,money,marrige,children...etc.
Look at Britney Spears,she's got all the money,had fame,2 husbands and 2 kids by age 25.
Just a week ago I saw her in the newspaper without her pants and partying heavily,and her new pal Paris Hilton says she thinks ready for motherhood too because she is good with her dogs?
I feel sorry for them but unfortunately youngsters think they have to follow this example...wrong,wrong,wrong!!!
I wish the best of luck for your relatives and I hope they won't be just an other statistic number on the divorce list!
All the best:
B.
2006-12-07 02:45:00 · answer #5 · answered by amerika 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's a good question which could be open for a big discussion. Personally, I have no idea. I Know people who got married at 16, because the girl was pregnant and are now celebrating their Silver Wedding Anniversary, and on the other hand I know couples who dated for years, got married and it lasted only a few weeks. So there is no right answer to this question.
2006-12-08 08:44:46 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it matters more how long you've been together than how old you are. 9 months is way too fast in my opinion. On the other hand I probably won't be able to legally drink at my wedding but I'll probably have been with my fiance for 6-7 years by then. And will have lived with him for about 2.5-3.5 years. I think that matters more than age.
2006-12-07 16:01:38 · answer #7 · answered by evilangelfaery919 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, they're in love. I want to marry my boyfriend (of two years) but seeing as I'm only eighteen we're going to wait until I'm twenty. But that really is just for the public side of things, I don't want people talking about us like you are talking about your cousin! How about if you just give them a chance, they are happy so far yes? So ask this question in ten years time.
Marriage is sort of like a game of luck, it doesn't matter how old you are or how long you've been together.
2006-12-07 00:47:05 · answer #8 · answered by floppity 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It really hard to say. Generally I would say it is a bad idea.
People go through many emotional needs and relationship needs not to mention personality changes between the teen years and late twenties.
Most teen marriages end in divorce within the first 3 years.
But there is always an exception.
Support them and encourage them when you can. They will need it.
2006-12-07 00:53:47 · answer #9 · answered by sshazzam 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
even 40 years old will divorce, can you actually predict the future?
It may not seems right at the moment, you may say they will leave each other soon. bt who knows? maybe they will be the happiest couple in the world or they could be th worst!
but what really important is, even getting married with each other while they are still so young man be a wrong choice, but its their choice.
and it doesnt matter if you made a wrong decision, cuz who doesnt?! the most important thing is to live with that choice and to learn from it. thats what life is, making mistake and learing from the mistake. do you think light bulb made in one try?
best wishes for you, your cusin and his wife,
heartless
2006-12-07 00:47:58 · answer #10 · answered by heartless_916 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋