Its sounds like the bible is asking us to abandon our parents for our spouse. Why would the bible ask us to do this?
Whats wrong with loving your parents when you get married? Aren't they still family?
2006-12-07 00:16:41 · 12 answers · asked by ri00 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
A better question is, "Why are you using an old book written by people in a primitive patriarchal society to dictate your morals?"
Come join the 21st century. Society has come a long way since then, though many don't like to admit that things change. You have a brain. I'm sure you can figure out how to manage a spousal relationship and family relationship.
2006-12-07 00:18:47 · answer #1 · answered by nondescript 7 · 1⤊ 4⤋
For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother and cleave to his wife, and they two shall be one flesh. This doesn't mean completely abandon your family... what it does mean is that your priorities change. Growing up you listen to your family, you go to them for advice, comfort and support. When you get married, the primary source for those emotional (and spiritual) support becomes your spouse. In a healthy relationship, putting the other person ahead of yourself is a two way street. This isn't about lording over your spouse... it's about giving up selfish considerations out of respect for your spouse. (Yeah guys, that means when your wife doesn't feel well, you should skip going out with the boys and stay home and watch the kids for her.) What is important to remember is this: Marriage is about each other. you love each other and take care of each other. Isolation and control is not healthy... but if you are honest with each other (and faithful to each other) cleaving (or clinging) to your spouse will be easy and leaving your parents won't seem like such a shock... after all, you can still see them whenever you want.
2016-05-23 03:19:29 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love Your Spouse More Than Your Parents
2006-12-07 00:27:50 · answer #3 · answered by loewe 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You are sort of correct.
What the Bible is explaining is that in marriage, your commitment should be first and foremost to your spouse (if you aren't willing to make that level of commitment, you probably should not marry that person). Cleaving in that context is about fusing together, becoming one.
When you marry, you marry a person with different values, beliefs and ways of doing things. And most likely they will conflict with teachings and choices you have learned from your parents. So, what this means is that if your teachings come in conflict with the teachings of your spouse, you and your spouse need to work things out so you remain as one.
Think about a good partnership: it withstands outside forces. Think about the times when people have issues with the other spouse's parents. Who do you side with? Your parents or your spouse? If you choose your parents over your spouse, you can damage your marriage. If you have children, don't you want that unity in your marriage?
And a word to the wise...when you select your marriage partner, make sure you choose someone whom you will have that commitment to you that no matter what happens that person will do whatever it takes to stay "one" with you, and more importantly make sure that person is someone you are willing to make that same level of commitment to. If you both are willing to make that lifetime commitment that your spouse is that important to you, you can weather through virtually any difficulty.
2006-12-07 00:27:24 · answer #4 · answered by Searcher 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely they are still family but once we take a spouse they are our primary responsibility. The two become one flesh. No where in the Bible does it tell us that we are of one flesh with our parents, brothers, or sisters. The only place in the Bible where two people become one flesh is in marriage. This means that if your wife and your mother disagree you are supposed to support your wife. Many problems in marriages arise when the husband takes his mother's side over his wife's side in a dispute. Likewise, if a husband has a conflict with his father in law the wife should stand by her husband because she is one flesh with him.
By the way, did you know that the Bible says a man should not work or go off to war for the first year of marriage? That he is supposed to spend ALL of his time making his new wife happy? The groom would save up enough money and provisions to see them both through that first year of marriage without his having to work.
Deu 24:5 ¶ When a man hath taken a new wife, he shall not go out to war, neither shall he be charged with any business: [but] he shall be free at home one year, and shall cheer up his wife which he hath taken.
2006-12-07 00:23:13 · answer #5 · answered by tas211 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
No it simply means leave your families house and set up your own. Your parents are still important and should still be loved and respected, you are just to come into your own and create a new family with your spouse and children.
2006-12-07 00:19:34 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
We no longer rely on mommy and daddy for total support, but now we rely on our spouse. It doesn't mean to stop loving them. When the Bible was recorded, men and women lived with their parents until their wedding day. So for that purpose when they got married they literally would leave the home of their parents.
2006-12-07 00:19:33 · answer #7 · answered by BAnne 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
It just means to put your spouse first. God is a family man, He loves families, to the point He wants us to call Him Father. No, you can love mom & pop, just put your spouse in first place. We are to care for our older folks and take care of widows.God, is not unreasonable in matters of the family. If you think you have family now wait until you get to Heaven.
2006-12-07 00:22:24 · answer #8 · answered by angel 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
it does not mean to abandon your parents. what it means is, that when you get married you become one. of course your parents are family and will always be your parents. it means that your husband or wife comes first in the marriage.
2006-12-07 00:19:46 · answer #9 · answered by lover of Jehovah and Jesus 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
No it means you are one with the other person and you are to let of the parents and make your life with this other person now..
2006-12-07 00:27:27 · answer #10 · answered by I give you the Glory Father ! 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋