My and my boyfriend have been together for 4 months, and he used to tell me all this sweet stuff before, like how gorgeous I am and so on... He's black and I'm mixed, and we live in all white country in eastern Europe. I take care of myself, I workout, keep my hair fixed and so on... but lately, he's acting like he lost his mind 'cause everytime we r in the club, he'd choose the ugliest fat girl that looks like a clown and it drives me crazy! Why does he dod that??? All his friends r like- hey man, what u doin, u got beautiful girl over there, why u talking to that ugly girl? But he's really actin like he lost his mind... Why???
2006-12-07 00:13:41 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I thought you broke up with him 2 days ago? Your questions are rather contradictory.
2006-12-07 00:16:06 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would not spend another moment trying to figure him out. It has only been four months. I would not give him another second. I would leave him alone, to clown and play games on his own. He obviously doesn't have very much self respect or respect for you, and enjoys playing games. I would move on and find someone with like values and ideas of what is acceptable and not in a relationship. He can only mistreat you as long as you allow it to go on. it will be his loss. Good luck and God bless****
2006-12-07 00:17:39 · answer #2 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he is probably getting something from fat ugly chicks that chicks that are not fat and ugly dont give....what could it be....perhaps an interest in their parts to be with him more so than him having to work at being with you or some other "beautiful" female.
at the very least it should be 50/50 but nobody likes to be the only person showing interest
2006-12-07 00:18:08 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I suspect it is an underhand and cowardly way of putting you down - subconsciously you will say to yourself, 'If he prefers her to me, then how bad does he think I am?'
This is not good for your self esteem.
Another thing that ocurred to me is that he is one of those strange people who actually get off on ugliness. That is also a problem of self esteem - his.
Either way, this is not a good place for you to be. Leave him to his silly games and find a man who is confident enough to make you feel good about yourself.
2006-12-07 00:22:12 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to discuss this with him. No one here reads minds (that I am aware) so we cannot know what his reasons or motives are.
If you cannot communicate with him, your relationship is in trouble anyway...so talk about this and find out why he's spending time with other women (no matter what they look like, that's irrelevant) instead of his girlfriend.
2006-12-07 00:16:51 · answer #5 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
to every eyes its own beauty, the girl may look ugly to u and ur friends, but obviously she is cute to ur bf. he probably like someone who is not conceited, or mayb he just want a change. u should talk to him and fine out what's goin on in him mind.
2006-12-07 00:22:44 · answer #6 · answered by sweet143 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
maybe he is bored with gorgeous and prefers a girl who is more grateful for the attention... perhaps you should see about getting off with his ugliest mate with the biggest equipment... :D He'd be VERY grateful!!!
2006-12-07 00:18:14 · answer #7 · answered by Forlorn Hope 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask him? Is he trying to show you that your looks are not everything. You sound like a beautiful person inside. Show him you are.
2006-12-07 00:21:35 · answer #8 · answered by bountyhunter101 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You ya'll are still together??? He lost it alright and i would help him find it by leaving him with that ugly chick. You are better off by yourself.
2006-12-07 00:17:17 · answer #9 · answered by baby_luv 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe he's threatened by your beauty and thinks if he goes after some ugly chick he won't have any competition for her attention.
2006-12-07 00:17:37 · answer #10 · answered by sag.grrrl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋