actully he loves me lot but i don't know why he becomes so rude which i cant tolerate. after a while he is ok.
2006-12-06 23:52:10 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Your b/f loves you but that does not mean that he will scold you every time and again.You must stand up and be counted for your share of love .Persuade him to not scoff at you ,but ,instead let him inform you very lovingly, as to what's his likes and dislikes ,so that the next time you don't make any mistakes.Also. tell him that afterall humans do make errors but life's much smooth when u move over these silly things and love each other.
N.S:- I too had a similar problem with my g/f since I felt a bit Insecure but that is past and I love her more now than ever before.Also I too am a software engineer.
Dont neglect him but love him even more.
have a happy love life
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2006-12-07 00:11:06 · answer #1 · answered by rex_kin 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Fear of being not in charge? A need to be or present himself as superior due to something in his up-bringing?
Regardless of the cause - Ask yourself this - CAN I LIVE WITH THIS THE REST OF MY LIFE? HE may LOVE you but you should be independent and strong enough to either say WOW dude do you know what you do to me at times? Or Make plans to move on. Far to many folks out there love folks JUST BECAUSE.
Just because they are themselves, Just because for some strange reason there two souls seem to intertwine and support each other with out any hazardous bi-products, Just because each part of the equation compliments the other.
Have you heard the saying that the product of combining items is more valuable then the individual parts alone?
Regret is a hard thing to live with. No computer program that I know of can solve the mysteries of love.
You need to take the feeling of discomfort that you feel and multiply that by 5. Can you live with that discomfort? Now multiply that discomfort by 5 to the 2nd power. (not to hurt your feeling but I don't know your level of math awareness) This is the 5 with the little number 2 above it. Try this equation and change the 2 above the 5 according to the number of years you might be together..
Point is after time the hurt and pain grows exponentially.
Hope this helps
TJ
PS - job career info helps by getting the idea that the person has been out in public and through this knowledge he has had to interact with many people. It indicates that he should be intelligent enough to take this persons feedback like an adult. Likewise someone without the benefit of the riggers of keeping disciplined enough to continue an education may, only may, not see things through the eyes of another or have interpersonal experiences to draw on to deal with a situation like this in a more open and fruitful way. Just my thoughts.
2006-12-07 00:15:51 · answer #2 · answered by Any Key! Push Me 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How old are you 2? Is he your daddy? If not, then why are YOU allowing him to "scold" you? You need start acting like a grown woman and put your foot down. You can always start to "scold" him the next time you have sex with him. Yell at him about what he is not doing right. He is only being rude to you because you are willing to take it.
2006-12-07 00:15:47 · answer #3 · answered by lady01love 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He takes the love for granted or maybe just has a bad day. Don't worry I am sure you have bad days too. Tell him how you feel about his behaviour on a bad day and tell him not to scold you. Maybe he should buy a punching bag or something...
2006-12-06 23:54:35 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not sure what him being a software developer has to do with your issue at all...but if you don't like something about his behavior, then you need to address it with him. If y'all can work it out, great. If not, then you have to decide if you can tolerate it or not.
Scolding is for children...I hope you can help him see it's not an appropriate way to treat one's partner.
2006-12-06 23:55:52 · answer #5 · answered by . 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like your in a dominant submissive relationship he scolds u sometimes because he feels a need to be more powerful than you are , you back down to him making him feel like a Domninant in the relationship and makes you feel like your less of a person .. thats the way it sounds anyway if you dont like it then you need to break that cycle and tell him to knock it off and if he dont and he breaks up with you your better off with out him because if you dont want to be treated like a submissive type of person then you shouldnt be
2006-12-06 23:55:39 · answer #6 · answered by jazieyez 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sometimes I get frustruated with life and want some time away from my girlfriend and I tell her so, and usually in an angry mood. She tries to make me feel better or tries to talk to me, which makes me even more angry. She has moments like these too, but that doesnt mean we dont love each other.
as long as both of you spend quality time together MOST of the time, it should be ok.
And from next time, please post some more info with some examples from past.
2006-12-07 00:04:30 · answer #7 · answered by AshNZ 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He needs to control his anger/negativity when it comes to you. No person deserves to be treated like crap.
Tell him that you dont apperciate the way he acts or treats you sometimes, in those moments, and ask him How you can assist him in getting better?
Yes he will fail, we all do. But if its an everyday thing, Then something needs to change. And i mean NOW!
2006-12-06 23:54:34 · answer #8 · answered by Encouragement 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sit him down one day when he is calm, tell him to go for anger-management tell him it is not good for your relationship and that his profession to have such temper. You do not like to be scolded, if something are not well he should let you know gently and in civil manner no one is perfect and tell him you are doing just that right now.
2006-12-07 00:46:28 · answer #9 · answered by minootoo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
a. You need to tell him straight away politely but firmly that this is not done (when he is in a good mood). Work-stress is no excuse.
b. You need to raise your own self-esteem so that he treats you with respect always.
c. Involve your elders i.e. in-laws and parents.
2006-12-07 00:01:23 · answer #10 · answered by ustaadji 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋