i really like this guy, i think he likes me but he hadnt asked me out.
i cant stop thinking about him.
he shows the signs that he is interested but he is also really laid back and cool about things so im not sure whether that means he isnt interested!!
im totally confused by his signals!!!
whats the best way to ask i guy out?i dont want to seem to pushy. i want is to be casual, but not too casual so he doesnt get what i mean!!!if thats possible!!!lolxxx
im really nervious!!!!!
help!!!!!!
2006-12-06 23:44:07 · 17 answers · asked by Special Lady 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
"Guy" do you fancy doing something later?
2006-12-06 23:47:22 · answer #1 · answered by Fay 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you ever stopped to think that made he's being laid back because he's nervous about asking you out as well? Maybe he's waiting to see if you'd ask him and you're not getting the hint. It's obvious that you and this person talk so during conversation just ask the damn question. Let's do dinner, movie or whatever it is you're trying to do. What is so hard about asking a man out? This is 2006 it's not that hard. Form the words in your mind, open your mouth and let them come out. If you don't someone else will and you will be left behind. Hurry up and go get your man.
2006-12-07 07:51:09 · answer #2 · answered by Pisces Princess 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well my Dear, I don't think there's really a best way to do this. Because what ever works for me may not work for him. Now, it's possible that this guy likes you and is waiting for you to make the first move, which I think is very childish. Or, he's not interested. But we don't know for sure which is it. If you think there's a best way, try asking him how he feels about you and if he wants to go out with you.
2006-12-07 08:16:44 · answer #3 · answered by oblove15 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Women are afraid to get hurt just as much as guys are no one likes rejection. Have you ever seen the commercial were the women is getting her dry cleaning and the guy in the car behind her is so cute that she hands the cashier a twenty and tells her it is for the guys stuff behind her and then she gives the cashier her card and tells her to tell him to call her sometime. The commercial is about being positive. It is not about being aggressive it is about being positive. So take the plungee simply go up to him and say hey I was thinking about going out for a drink and was wondering if you would like to go with me. He is either going to say no or he is going to say yes. Either way you will have your answer and then you have either started the beginnings of a relationship or found out he does not feel that way about you and then you can move on. I asked my husband to marry me and we have been together for over 13 wonderful exciting years. Take the plung. Best of luck.
2006-12-07 07:54:39 · answer #4 · answered by victoria_bell_99 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try and make him want you instead of you wanting him!
Behave as if you have no intrest in him. Act as if every guy in this world wants you.
Stop calling/seeing him often. Stop giving away signals of interst (well maybe, sometimes drop an odd signal, to bait him)
And most important of all, GIVE HIM THE GIFT OF MISSING YOU.
This may sound funny at first, but trust me, if you do all this, especially the "missing" part, it would sweep any guy off his feet and I bet you he will come begging you you.
2006-12-07 07:55:19 · answer #5 · answered by AshNZ 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no matter what u or i think up if your going to be nervous it's a dead give a way, always fall for the cheap trick question ahh? do think i should get my hair cut....and i freak out cause I'm trying hard not to exposing that i already like her but now i got compounded problems as well, so by the time i get done making small talk I'm eating right out of her hand, i fall for simple stuff, makes nervous a controllable humor
2006-12-07 08:10:26 · answer #6 · answered by bev 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok find out something that interests him then just mention you are going to such an event on such and such a day and ask him if he would like to go with you .He will then say yes or no or say he is busy in that case ask him if another day would suit him better .if he still refuses then he does'nt want to go out with you .But at least you will know!!
2006-12-07 07:53:05 · answer #7 · answered by john h 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can realte to where you come from.I was in the same situation afew weeks ago.
I came to realise the guy was just palying hard to get.
I asked him out and he said No in my face and i was totally crashed.This happened after we ahd bonded for a while.
I believe that i was better off regretting what I ahd done than what i hadn't.So i laid off for a while and he called me and told me he missed me.
To get back to your problem I would ask you to use your bfriend to hint to him to ask you out cos you might scare him if you ask directly.
2006-12-07 07:53:21 · answer #8 · answered by cynnie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess show him ur importance and be really sweet do everythin of his choice without making him realize that u r doing all 4 him or simply hang out with some else might be seeing this he may ask u out
but if u take my advice dont fall in love bcoz who ever u love always hurts u and play with ur feelings i know u wud think me foolish but it too had happened with me so its better not to fall in love.
2006-12-07 07:59:08 · answer #9 · answered by glamour_ fiz 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
the best way to ask a somebody out is to go up to them and tell him that you are interested in himand then ask him if he is interested in you and if he says yes ....there you go but do not send a friend to do your job because they can give that person a different point of view about you" if " he says yes.
2006-12-07 07:48:08 · answer #10 · answered by lil' mama 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"Hi, wanna go out sometime?"
Simple as that. Offer him your number on a piece of paper, smile and walk away.
That way you give him time to mull it over, but you've clearly given the signal you're interested.
2006-12-07 07:47:17 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋