Every Saturday we have a "girls night". We play video games, gossip, and drink. In the morning everybody goes home. Well my husband's sister was invited by a friend we share mutually. She has been over to our house before with her baby and I was unhappy. The reason's being, the kid crawls and our house is not baby proof. The child was grabbing everything and the mother did nothing to stop it. My husband and I spent the whole night chasing the child instead of entertaining guests. She breast fed her baby on the couch which is fine but when the baby threw up she covered it with a pillow for me to find later in the evening. I can't tell her not to bring the child because my husband will be upset, but I work hard and want to enjoy an evening without a screaming child destroying all our things. How can i compromise without sounding like an asshole to my husband and his sister?
2006-12-06 22:48:50 · 10 answers · asked by devisissy 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
This time my husband will not be there, hense "girls night." LOL A friend of mine is friends with my husband's sister and invited her. Her husband is out that night as well which is why she cant leave the child with him, even though she has not tried bottle feeding the baby yet so all he knows is the breast.
Now when I look back, the couch thing was very funny. It was very obviously baby vomit and funnier yet the way the pillow was hiding it, was not very convincing. A little carpet spray fixed it right up. I'm more concerned for my electronics all at perfect baby crawling eye level. OHHHH and with lights! My husband thinks Im a jerk although he agrees chasing after the little one while his young sister drinks herself silly is aggravating, but it's his sister.
2006-12-06 23:34:26 · update #1
Wow, if she would clean up after herself, you might feel differently. I would see if theres someone, like a responsible teenager, that could come and help with the baby that night. That way, you dont have to worry about your house getting trashed, or the baby getting hurt, and you can relax and have fun too. If you cant find someone, then I would simply tell the mother that she has to watch and clean up after her own child.
2006-12-06 22:55:44 · answer #1 · answered by pebbles 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off if it is a girls night why is your husband there? Secondly if it is a girls night and your sister in law must bring the baby, ask your husband to keep the baby in another room and have your sister in law breast feed in another room. Let her know that if the baby throws up that you expect her to clean up after the baby. I do have one other question. Where is her husband and why can't he keep the baby so that she can enjoy a night out?
2006-12-06 22:56:09 · answer #2 · answered by juicie813 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Difficult one. How about saying something like "It will be so boring for XX (baby) so you must make sure you bring something for XX to do. Don't forget our house isn't baby proof so we really need something that going to keep them busy." How about suggesting the woman puts the baby to bed early or feeds the baby in another room and make sure you leave towels and wet wipes close at hand - that way if there are any accidents hopefully the woman would have enough of a conscience to clear it up?
2006-12-06 22:54:21 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Explain this is an adults only night. There are plenty of oppourtunites for family time, but all moms are entitled to a kid free night. Make it sound like a positive for her, you wont sound mean. If she still brings baby, just ask her to visit another time.
2006-12-06 22:57:18 · answer #4 · answered by trishopesisters 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm with you. I even have extra problems with my step son. that's loads of artwork to get him to take a shower. He does not do a physically powerful interest. he's in basic terms very lazy - very lazy. he's obese. He smells on appropriate of looking like a slob. loads of the time my step daughter seems presentable. She showers oftentimes so she does not scent. Kudos to you for attempting to instruct her something when you consider that mom is neglectful from the sound of it. what's she thinking? She needs her to be like the the remainder of the slobs of the section? No wish for a extra suitable life? It does not take lots to look severe high quality. it must be the age. My step son is 11. that's been a conflict when you consider that i've got been interior the photograph - very very nearly 5 years. What i do no longer comprehend is the negotiation. Why. Make him take a shower. No excuses. in basic terms get to it. He has extra effective than sufficient time. who's the discern - baby or the person? What does your husband say approximately it? I permit my husband be on top of problems along with his childrens. i bypass via him if I even have lawsuits.
2016-10-14 04:58:18 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats pretty gross that she is getting drunk while breastfeeding and supposedly watching her child. Alcohol tainted breastmilk is great for babies !! Tell her to stay at home SOBER with her baby or get a responsible sitter. It is unsafe for the baby for it to be there with a bunch of drunk adults. Tell her that.
2006-12-07 03:09:17 · answer #6 · answered by cheese food product 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her it is a girl night out not for infant . and for the safety of her child she can not bring the baby cause your house is not baby proof. let your husband tell her. if someone threw up on my couch and cover it up with a pillow(ewwwwwwww) they will not be welcome in my house anymore. that is gross
2006-12-06 23:18:54 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Invite her and just say adults only I need to relax. It is girls night not Family night.
2006-12-06 22:54:46 · answer #8 · answered by Belinda 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her its a girls night, not a babys night, and she will have to get a sitter for her child. that is not unreasonable.
2006-12-06 22:53:58 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
--I think you should tell her say look "my house isnt babyproof and since last month he/she was crawling everywhere and getting into things i dont want anything or him/her to get hurt.--
2006-12-06 22:57:02 · answer #10 · answered by Rin O 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋