i am saying this man who is 7 years older thn me, and my dad is treating me like i am 10 , but i love this man, im 16 hes 23? cn u tell me y?
2006-12-06 22:46:06 · 11 answers · asked by Zoe 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Probably because you are not behaving responsibly. You have your priorities out of order, finish school first. You have to consider the possibility that the man you are seeing is no bargain or he would be dating women his own age instead of high school girls. Judging from your spelling ability, I would say you aren't educated enough to see what this man is lacking. Your father is trying to protect you from your own poor judgment.
2006-12-06 23:49:35 · answer #1 · answered by casurfwatcher 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
You're not the only one sweetie. Being 16 years old isn't easy.
I can understand that you love this guy, but is it really love or is it lust?
Ask yourself WHY do you love him? Is it because he spoils you? Because he treats you like an adult?
Well that's not love...
That's the exact same thing that your dad is able to give to you. Your dad loves you and despite what you might think, doesn't want you to get hurt. Can you imagine if you were to have intercourse and then find yourself pregnant. I can almost guarantee that your 23-year-old boyfriend would leave you and find some other young lady.
I think that if you were to sit down and just think about things for a moment, you would see that you don't need this guy. I know that splitting up with someone hurts real bad. I know that you're thinking "but he's the one" but poppet... In the back of your mind, you know that your dad is right. You know that even though your dad can be unfair and sometimes you just want to tell him to shut-up and leave you alone, he is only trying to protect you from the nasty things in this world.
So come on hun, do the right thing... Besides- can you imagine how this guy would feel about being dumped by a 16-year-old? To tell you the truth, I don't think it would bother him in the slightest- despite what he might say. It's all just words.
Anyway, by taking control of the situation, you show yourself to be more grown-up than you realise. Your dad might not say it, but deep-down he would be so proud of you for doing what you know to be the right thing.
2006-12-10 22:36:43 · answer #2 · answered by Jess Hirst 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Going out with someone that much older is dangerous.
You generally want different things.
For example, of you 10 year old sister wanted to go out wit ha 16 yr old guy would you be happy with it?
I think not. You both want different things, even if you do want sex too then it will be a different kind of relationship that you are after.
At 16 you are still exploring and you should explore with people your own age.
Your dad only wants to help. I know he seems like hes being annoying and treating you like you are ten, but its his way of showing that he cares about you and wants you to be safe.
At the end of the day its your life, so im not going to lecture, thats your dads job. What do your mates think?
2006-12-07 05:58:57 · answer #3 · answered by devil_pixie 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Because your dad was 23 himself once. You are still his little girl and he knows a 23 yr old guy doesn't want to just chat to a 16 yr old girl he might be a nice guy i don't know so i cant comment . Show your dad you are mature enough to be in a relationship and he will come round in time. You don't say if hes met the guy.
2006-12-07 00:21:06 · answer #4 · answered by Pama 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
because you're an idiot. 7 years isn't a big age difference but mentally 16 is much different that 23. You should be dating people in highschool. Better yet, no dating until you earn an A in english class
2006-12-07 01:01:01 · answer #5 · answered by hot carl sagan: ninja for hire 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Cos this 23 year old is only after one thing from you and it isn't what you think it is. The reason why your dad is treating you like this is because he knows this, but is trying to protect you.
2006-12-06 23:52:28 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
All your dad needs to do is make a phone call to the police and your man can possibly do some time for statutory rape. Your dad is trying to protect you.
2006-12-07 00:41:31 · answer #7 · answered by browneyes 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
he's look after your best interests hun...your daddy's little girl...there's a bit of an age gap here...your dad wants the best for you....he does not want to see you squander your life away with someone much older...you're still very young and really don't need to be tied down at that age...he loves you....and he's trying to make you see sense....when your a parent you will understand where he's coming from....believe me....
2006-12-07 01:20:32 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Firstly, this man is not your Dad! It is a mathematical fact! He must however be married to your mother, therefore a step father. I would suggest you sit down with him and explain that you are 16 and almost the same maturity as he is, and you would appreciate it if he would rather look on you as a friend, not a son!!
2006-12-07 01:44:43 · answer #9 · answered by lynne 3 · 0⤊ 4⤋
Yeah i'l tell you why , it's cos you put the question on here instead of sorting it with him !!
2006-12-07 00:35:24 · answer #10 · answered by nicemanvery 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋