What does she want...?

Question

Me and my ex still talk on average once a week. For those who know me, she's the one who broke my heart in 1997. When we talk, we just talk about regular stuff but at times it's a little more "interesting". Sometimes she asks me to go out with her and her friends on the weekends and at other times jut me and her. I've never went but she still extends the invite about once a month. She is married, as am I. Both very unhappily married for what it's worth. She tells me all the dirty little details about her marriage, good and bad. She often tells me that she wishes things would of turned out differently. What do you think she wants from me? I do not want anything more than just a friendship. She hurt me too bad 10yrs ago and even though I've forgiven her, my heart never will. What should I do about this situation?

She know's that i don't want anything from her, and I usually think she understands until she starts talking about "us".

She definately know's how I feel about our situation. But I can't stop talking to her because I really value our friendship. I know she does too and would never actually try to do "anything" to jeopardize it. But at times I feel as though she wants more.

Answer 1

just be her friend. That is what she needs right now and she trusts you enough to tell you all the juicy little details. I do realize that it is tempting to go back on something you are familiar with but for now, be her friend. :)

*HUGS* to you this morning!

JEN

Answer 2

TRUST ME -- you need to keep away from her !!
He is taking you as an substitute of her partner, don't let her do that. Tell her clearly you want nothing from her as well you can't give anything to her. If she still doesn't change her attitute, be a little rude to her.
If you would let her get any place in your life -- even an inch -- she will make use of you, will enjoy with you for a while and then will through you out like trash.
KEEP AWAY. Did you get it??? Keep Away.

1 more thing :: Don't forget you are Married. OK ?

wait ......... Oh ! you care for her firndship?? Are you sure, Don;t care plz. She cheated you, right. You said you got mariied unhappily. well we may say that b'coz of her. Yes we can say that. So you are suffering b'coz of her and you still want to let her use you. It's good to love someone but love like this is foolish. You are married, try to keep your family happy, your wife happy.
Why looking at a women who has cheated you in past ?? Why ? why? why?

Hope you will make a smart dicision. It's good you care for her but don't forget the limitations of FRIENDSHIP

Answer 3

Maybe she wants you to have some forbidden relationship or she want you to love her again because her marriage is ugly..If you want to be faithful to your wife even if you also have an unhappy marriage then have more space between the two of you, its right to down her invitations, it would just put you in risks situations ( i believe you said you just want to be her friend and thats all). Just be like that, a plain friendship.But if you want to have something deeper then its time that both of you should file a divorce and reconcile again (only if you want).Infidelity is a sin so do not do that.She choose to be with this guy and not you so she should face the consequences of her decisions.Hope I helped you thats all.

Answer 4

Well just ignore her calls or whatever connections you have with her,if you really don't want anything from her.Her unhappy married situation is not your fault ,and if she wants something or someone to ease her loneliness from her marriage don't it let be you. Telll her or remind her that what had happened to the two of you are already past you have each other's own life now.

Answer 5

Sure she probably hears what you are saying, however, she is hoping you will have weak moment and she can rekindle those old feelings. So, if you do not want any sort of a romantic relationship, don't go out with her. This is the direction she is trying to lead this. Good luck and God bless****

Answer 6

End your relationship with her. For yourself mainly. She knows you are vulnerable. Even though she is sorry now there is a good chance that she will betray you again. Am sorry to have to say that.Yes it will break her heart. But it will help her to grow from her mistake. She needs to learn humility and honesty.That is a hard lesson to learn but will be good for her in the long run. Good for you to know now. I know you don't want to hurt her. But you need to care for you now.

Answer 7

You are best friends, she is using you in case her marriage dose not work out, its OK to be friends 'but she has gone to far and yet you let her,"Why" you should have put a stop to it along time ago,If your happy in your marriage why are you even talking to your x,I see trouble there," best put a stop to it now." My guess is you will not!

Answer 8

omg no offense but u really just inspired me to get off my lazy *** and really stop talkin to my ex.
cut of all communication i promise u that there is no girl in the wolrd that is ever "just friends" with a guy if they have a past.
NO WAY IN HELL IS THAT EVER GONNA HAPPEN unless they are some how medicated or computerized (and dont forget that if u dont see or hear it, doesnt mean it aint there it's somewhere but its there its called FEELINGS AND EVERY WOMEN HAS TO STOP HIDDING THEM AND EVERY GUY HAS TO LEARN HOW TO DEAL WITH IT CAUSE SOONER OR LATER ITS GONNA COME OUT.

Answer 9

If she hurt you really badly there can be no 'us'. I'd keep her at arms length and make it clear you value her friendship now, but nothing more.

Answer 10

she wants a little something more then just your ''friendship'' and is trying to let you know that by all of the ''we'' talk... god... change that picture, I feel in a daze just looking at that sexy body..