I worked in one county and dated a girl there for almost two years. I was very happy with her and most of the time I thought I loved her. We spent wonderful time together. My project was over and I had to go to other mission in other country. My girlfriend loved me very much and she wanted to leave everything and come with me. But I did not feel ready to marry her or to take her everywhere I would go, I did not want to take this responsibility and I am not sure whether I really loved her. The fact that I didn't want to marry her, I accepted as an indicator that I did not love her. So I broke up with her and we both felt very bad. I wanted to keep in touch with her as a friend, but she told me that she wants to forget me and asked me to stop any contact. It is very painful, because she was very close to me. What do you think I broke up with her because it is not true love or just because of my fears of responsibility? (I believe that if I really loved I would not hesitate).
2006-12-06 22:11:18 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Its a good question. The answers are blowing in the wind though. Its eternal and can never be answered.
2006-12-06 22:14:28 · answer #1 · answered by artistry 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Marriage and love do not necessarily go hand-in-hand. You may not have been ready for that step, but should have found another way of letting her know she was exactly what you wanted from a woman! Did she actually SAY she wanted you to marry her? I suggest you take the time to figure out what it is you DO want from her and be honest with yourself before you subject her to some more pain based on your own selfish need for her love. If this is just a way to get some adoration and a 'friend' with benefits, then I think you'd be wise to tell her. She sounds like she may have ideas of a little house with a white picket fence and 1.5 kids and a dog...
2006-12-06 22:22:25 · answer #2 · answered by wetdreamdiver 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You needed a buddy to hang out with. You needed someone who you could be with and still be 'yourself', and you got that in her. SO you enjoyed it while it lasted. Your idea of a woman you want to marry and live with is definitely not this kind of a woman. That's why you got hassled.... Most men are like that. I'm glad she took the cue and is not reciprocating. Get a grip and move on. If you think, she's the one for it - then be a man and tell her. All the best to both of you !
2006-12-06 22:17:52 · answer #3 · answered by aurora 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think its your fears of responsibility, think you were mentally not prepared for responsibilities. One more thing we often realizes true love when we lose it, for when we are together we take them for granted but losing them clears the fog.
I think you should move on.
2006-12-06 22:21:24 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your fear of responsibility. Give her time. You abandoned. If she truly loves you she will come around.
2006-12-06 22:17:53 · answer #5 · answered by bountyhunter101 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree if you really loved her you would have found a way, so move on. Good Luck!
2006-12-06 22:14:06 · answer #6 · answered by betty_htch 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are just fear of responsability and that means that you love her but not so much
2006-12-06 22:15:39 · answer #7 · answered by HADEEL MAZIN 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I don't think you loved her, you just enjoyed her friendship
2006-12-06 22:17:13 · answer #8 · answered by Rocky 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you love responsibulities than her.
she loves you than world
2006-12-06 22:17:40 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋