2006-12-06 22:04:03 · 32 answers · asked by Nana 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
decide what you want for your life and how you want to spend it and go on from there. personally for me, marriage has had its ups and downs but i would NEVER get married again. I dont beleive marriage or commitment is to be handed out like chiclets...I beileve true intimacy happens once in your life and for me personally, i dont want to be a don quixote, chasing after something i will never see again.
2006-12-06 22:06:46 · answer #1 · answered by koalatcomics 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If there is a reasonable amount of time passed since your husband died, then yes, give him a chance! If you like him, and he seems a nice guy, but don't let sex get in the way first! Take it slowly, and let the relationship develop at it's own pace, if he's just after sex then this strategy will thwart those ambitions and he'll be gone, and you'd have lost nothing! So give it a try, and good luck hon! You deserve it!
2006-12-06 22:20:04 · answer #2 · answered by wheeliebin 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marriage is until death. Once a spouse has died, it is permissable to move on. But permissable does not mean YOU are ready. If you like the man, and yes, you already have the link with your husband, then you may wish to tell him you'd like to start things slowly. Go on a few dates with him and test the waters - see how it feels to "see" him under a different light.
You may find he reminds you too much of your husband, or you may feel that because of the link you share you are able to take the step into relationship a little easier.
There is no reason why you should not be happy and cherish the memory of your husband at the same time. Maybe in his own little way, he's been fluttering his little angel wings to bring you just that happiness with one person he knows he can trust to be good to you. No-one knows, but the decision is yours. If you're looking for permission to see him, that's okay too, and I for one think that the love he gave you is permission enough for you to allow yourself one more chance at happiness, no matter how old you may be.
2006-12-06 22:11:36 · answer #3 · answered by Sugar 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You didn't mention how long your husband has been gone. If it was recently then the man is out of line. However if it has been a while and if you are ready to move on, it can't hurt. I have to assume that if he is a good friend of your husband then he must be a good man. If you are ready, you can try going out as friends and see where it goes from there. If you aren't ready then tell him. If he is a good man he will understand and give you time. I am sorry for you loss.
2006-12-06 22:08:34 · answer #4 · answered by mizbehavingirl 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you feel lonely and you are out of your mourning phase and if you feel the friend is an understanding person, please go ahead. If you feel for a change you want to be lonely and without husband a spinster life once again do that. If you ask me the second one is better if you are an independent person. Think, again adjusting with another person and the same previous life good or bad life if you ask me is boring. Enjoy freedom if you can afford. All the best and take care.
2006-12-06 22:12:19 · answer #5 · answered by Kumari V 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So long as you both are comfortable, go for it. However, if your husband has just passed away, it may be good to stay away from any serious relationship to avoid gossip. Besides, in the mourning period, your thoughts may not have stabilised thus to not rush into any relationship at this moment. Take care!
2006-12-06 22:07:41 · answer #6 · answered by SingGirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well...ther r alot of things to consider...
1) r u ready for another relationship?
2) Do u hav strong feelings for this man?
3) do u hav kids, and if so, will they be able to accept and adjust to this change?
If u can answer yes to all of the above...then go 4 it =) ur husband would only want u 2 live on with life and be happy. n this man might be the way to achieve this =)
2006-12-06 22:12:29 · answer #7 · answered by noodles 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some way some how people might say all sort of things, but decide for yourself and listen to your heart not people. If he is good man and you know him well to be a good man, give him the chance but only when your heart is at peace with yourself. Since he is not your lates husband's but a friend I think it is cool. All the best and god be with you
2006-12-06 22:22:27 · answer #8 · answered by Queeny 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are comfortable with it and like the man, go for it.
If you are not comfortable with starting a new relationship, be honest with the man about your feelings. Like you're not ready and still need the time to get over your husband's passing.
And if it's on the rebound- don't do it!
2006-12-06 22:10:11 · answer #9 · answered by Nikki 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I all depends , how long ago did your husband pass (sorry to hear this) & are you ready for a relationship ?
If you think it will work then give it a try.
2006-12-06 22:09:17 · answer #10 · answered by start 6-22-06 summer time Mom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it is wrong. Have you buried your husband yet?
Did you both have feelings for each other when your husband was alive?
Don't do it, I do not think your husband would approve. I am sure there are plenty of men to fullfill the void your husband has left.
What type of wife are you? What type of friend is he? Find alternative partners.
2006-12-06 22:10:55 · answer #11 · answered by Just me 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋