I got pregnant 3 months after dating my bf, we are stationed in germany(ARMY), he said he wanted the baby and that we could make it as a family. He got out the army and went back America now he has been gone 10 months, he keeps saying he will be back this month but somehow he always has other excuses, he has not even seen his son, i know he is down about it and i also know that he has debt that why he cant afford the ticket, but how do i know when its time to just give him up.
2006-12-06 22:02:25 · 14 answers · asked by dchica85 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I hate to be down about this but i think it's about time to move on. I am a father of 2 boys 10 & 5 and NOTHING is going to keep me away from my kids for 10 months. I think he is a jerk thats just trying to get out of doing the right thing.
2006-12-06 22:26:50 · answer #1 · answered by Sarcastic Sid 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can tell by the fact that you had to ask this question. Girlfriend your man is gone. He doesn't want to own up to his responsibility, and frankly you made it easy for him. When you ask for and get the courts to force him to pay support then you will find out if he wants to be there for his child. But as for his feelings for you.......they are non existent or he would be there for you and with you. Sorry to break it to you but you've been dumped.
I agree with Sarcastic Sid. I am a father of two. If I had to spend one day that was not of my choice away from my children I would have some serious problems. This guy won't know what his responsability is until you stick him with a bill for back support. No man who loves his children and wants to take responsability for them would be away for ten months. It just doesnt happen.
Plus this guy left you in your sixth month of pregnancy? That right there is a tell tell sign that he ain't comming back. Wow I can't imagine leaving my wife to have a baby without me being there. Its just incomprehensible. Good luck with that.
2006-12-06 23:07:51 · answer #2 · answered by Mel H 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to talk to your bf more about this....if you love him you will find a way to make it work and know that somday it will be better. You should know that it's not that he doesnt want to see you but more that he can't . If however you feel you have fallen out of love with your boyfriend and this space is not somethign you can deal with then you need to break it off..Still of course let him be apart of the childs life though if you choose do this...after all he is the father and it is apparent that he does care about the child. I wish you the best of luck I know a situation like this must be extremly hard..do what is going to make you happy and what your heart tells you to do! good luck
2006-12-06 22:06:53 · answer #3 · answered by thereis 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would talk to him and let him know that you feel abandoned. Also, try to give him a time limit. Say if you don't find a way back within a month, i'm moving on. if he wanted you back he'll find a way. even if he has to borrow the money from family and friends. i hope this helps and i'm sorry for the way he's doing you.
2006-12-07 00:48:10 · answer #4 · answered by robsgrl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ten months is way too long. What ever his excuses are he needs to step up. He owes you support for that child you are caring for. How much longer are you going put up with his absence? It may be time now to give him up. However, don't let him off the hook about the child support.
2006-12-06 22:45:15 · answer #5 · answered by quantumview 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well you said it yourself that he can't afford to yet..Is he being faithful to you?? Is he calling & checking on you as much as he can? Why give up on him if he truelly is trying to get back to you & your guys son. If you think that he really means what he says, don't let him just go out of your lives you might regret it later. Talk to him, communication is the key in any relationship...Take care
2006-12-06 22:09:19 · answer #6 · answered by lori 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give him a chance to try and get himself together financially to see his son. If after a while he still doesn't make an effort to be a part of his son's life than move on with yours. Good luck to you.
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2016-10-16 12:11:37 · answer #8 · answered by pataki 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wait, ur stationed in germany, he seperated from the military, but left you there???? and he still hasn't come back for you and his new baby???? you need to tell him that if he doesn't either get his *** back to you or fly you both to him, then ur suing his *** for child support and finding urself a new boyfriend.
2006-12-06 23:07:38 · answer #9 · answered by Eowyn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If a person wants someone badly enough, nothing will stop them from getting to that person. He really doesn't sound too stable either!
2006-12-06 22:18:04 · answer #10 · answered by tcbtoday123 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋