2006-12-06 21:57:31 · 29 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He confessed himself there was no way I would have guessed otherwise.
2006-12-06 21:57:59 · update #1
once a cheat always a cheat, but he did confess so he either felt guilty or was worried you would find out, tricky only you can decide babe
2006-12-06 21:59:10 · answer #1 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Ask him why he confessed.
If he says he felt guilty, ask him why: if the answer is it shouldn't have happened, it was a mistake, it meant nothing, it was the drink - ANY OF THESE. then do not give him a second chance. Because he is basically saying that if it was a good one night stand it would not have been a mistake and it also means that whenever he has a drink he can't be trusted.
BUT, if he says that he has realised that he has deep feelings for you and although he knew that you would never find out about the one night stand he felt that for the sake of your relationship he should come clean and tell you that it will never happen again... then give him another chance. Because he wants to make things work with you.
****Never ask for details of the one night stand, like when? where? who? how was it? did you enjoy it? you will just torture yourself thinking about it****
2006-12-07 06:05:12 · answer #2 · answered by Just me 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If I did I give him another chance I would:
a) Consider using protection (condoms) for safety... don't know where he has been. And think about std testing for both of you.
b) Be ready (and make clear to him) that if you have any idea that it has happened again, that will be the end of it.
c) Insist that he be willing to own up and deal honestly (with you) regarding what it was that made him cheat. If it was a relationship issue, he needs to put it on the table and deal with it. If it was just boredom or a roving eye - well, honey, that should tell you something just by itself.
Good luck!
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2006-12-07 06:04:55 · answer #3 · answered by cyclgrrl 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sure give him another chance-so he cheat on you again. He must feel that this relationship has remained too long term. Like you are always going to be there. He's taking you for granted and for a ride. Take a vacation from each other for awhile and see where you two stand afterward.
2006-12-07 06:08:35 · answer #4 · answered by quantumview 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well...that's up to you. I'm 44 and my experience...if hes cheating hes already swayed. I told my man he gets 1 time to cheat so make darn sure shes worth it...because I will be gone. Its important that both people in a relationship agree to this from the start! Its really hard to trust after your heart has been betrayed. Relationships are a privilege not a right.Besides, did he use protection? I don't mean just because of a baby. Its life and death anymore with AIDS. Your life and his!!
2006-12-07 06:08:02 · answer #5 · answered by somebodys_watchn_you 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hmmm.that's hard question for me..Hmmm...Cheating is a cheating and it's hard to trust once your loveones started cheating you.But if he confessed,and if you feel he is sincere and if you feel that he still loves you.Just give him a chance..sometimes,some man even they're deeply in love to their girlfriend but when the temptation comes on their way,they're too weak to handle....If he confessed and asked your forgiveness ,it means he is sincere to you...He was just tempted or drunk....You have to listen his heart and your heart,listen your instinct and think hundred times because you're the only person who knows him well....
2006-12-07 06:07:35 · answer #6 · answered by Belle 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Nobody likes being betrayed, and some only confess because they can't live with the guilt. If you love the person, then I believe you should try and give them a second chance, even if you can't forget or forgive. Good luck
2006-12-07 06:00:56 · answer #7 · answered by I'm Sparticus 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
No, if their capable of cheating on you once their'll surely cheat on you again. But if you really think it's worth giving him another chance then do so
2006-12-07 06:28:49 · answer #8 · answered by Gem 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would not! the fact that he confessed is not an issue! The real problem is, will he do it again? Plus the fact that you know deep down that you will never trust him again, ever! Don't you? He was certainly not thinking of you that night, was he? Have a good day, hon!
2006-12-07 06:07:41 · answer #9 · answered by wheeliebin 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
That is purely a very personal choice. If you think you can, if you want to. Then you begin by trying to forgive him. It really all depends on what you are willing and able to deal with. And if you trust and believe it was something that happened and will never happen again. Cheating is a matter of making a choice. He can choose never to do it again. God bless****
2006-12-07 06:02:15 · answer #10 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
ooohh, hard one.. hmm.. very hard one! was it sexual, or just kissing and flirting? Sexual is bad.. It means he aint commited to you! Which might not be his fault, maybe he's not getting what he needs from you and he searched elsewhere.. Then the fault is on relationship communication! If it was flirting and kissing, then he aint commited to you, but dont even want to sort it out, he looks for affection elsewhere. Or third option, he was curios, and now, more than anything, he regrets that one night! He will hate it till the rest of his life cos he hurt his real loved one!!! Make it clear and take action based on one of these options. Good luck!
2006-12-07 06:05:07 · answer #11 · answered by Q 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋