met a girl recently and this relationship began as a secret admirer type thing- i sent her a poem i wrote for her, after reading her work on my space. we then met in person and exchanged poetry. she said she was falling for me through my writing but when she is around me, she has to hold back bc she is just starting a relationship with someone else. is it possible for her to be falling for me based on writing?
2006-12-06 21:51:57 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sure Dude ... she's falling for the sensative you ... the other guy may well be a muscular jock ... but this girl admires a more sensative guy ... the jocks burn out .... but a sensative heart will nurture and nourish forever ... make her see this and she'll come over to the sensative side :)
Good Luck
2006-12-06 21:56:04 · answer #1 · answered by deadkelly_1 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
OK dude. This is what she really means:
"I am touched by the stuff you write, and am intellectually attracted to them, but the sexual chemistry isn't there between us, it is with this other guy I am beginning a relationship with"!
The "failing in love" thing is a three stage process. Lust or sexual attraction, romantic love, and then for a long-term relationship, also compassionate love. They need to happen in this order or they won't last long.
Lust without romance turns into a one night stand. Romance without compassion dies within the first 12 to 18 months of partnership or else turns into a dry, indifferent relationship.
Women, for some reason and generally speaking, are not at all clear about these various stages. They often have, so called "bad boys" (you know, the classic archetypal male, James Bond style) in sight for possible romance and, so called "nice guys" for possible friendship. They have a sexual relationship with the former while enjoying intellectually stimulating conversations with the latter.
It is an on going feminine dilemma they need to sort out, just like many guys who need to get a grip with the concept of monogamy and commitment.
I would say, if someone is not sexually attracted to you, then amicably and respectfully say good-bye. The falling for your poetry and brain bit needs to arrive much later.
Regards!
2006-12-07 06:28:40 · answer #2 · answered by Ash 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. Do you two really have anything else to base a relationship on besides the writings? If you took away the poetry...whats left? That's what you should ask yourself. I'm sure you will come up with the answer. It may not be the one you want but you sound like a smart guy. I think the answer is already clear to you.
2006-12-07 05:58:42 · answer #3 · answered by somebodys_watchn_you 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, she could be falling in love with just your writing just like if you found a author you really liked and started reading all the books from him or her, be carefully your bond to get hurt here. if you really like this girl witch it sounds like you do, then start talking less about poetry and more about other things see how it goes from their. Take a chance, go for it. Good Luck
2006-12-07 06:00:28 · answer #4 · answered by Lara <:(((>< 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think she just likes your poetry. If she were really moved by it then she would hold off on t his new relationship
2006-12-07 05:56:26 · answer #5 · answered by Rocky 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she is then it means she is attracted to ur writing and not u. In other words...she loves the way ur writing makes her feel.
The question u should be asking urself is does she like u for being u...regardless of writing skills?
2006-12-07 06:00:11 · answer #6 · answered by fat_arse 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is just playing with your emotions and that is wrong. I would leave it with her as friends if you so wish, but she sounds manipulative, so any future romances that may occur could end badly. try not to get too involved and hurt - Good luck :-)
2006-12-07 05:54:35 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sure....she is falling for the fantasy of you rather than you....be careful...she has warned you that she is in another relationship so beware.....good luck
2006-12-07 05:57:29 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes, it is!All the girls are different and they fall on different things!
2006-12-07 05:54:28 · answer #9 · answered by ♥beautyfly♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes it is possible
2006-12-07 05:58:30 · answer #10 · answered by HADEEL MAZIN 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋