Ever since we found out I was pregnant, he won't even touch me. He barely looks at me. I need him more than ever right now to help support me and help support the baby. I don't need his money, I just need him. How do I make him understand that?
2006-12-06 20:49:33 · 16 answers · asked by helpmeiamcrazynow 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I didn't mention it before, but I'm only 20 and he's 19. We've been looking into adoption, but I don't know if I could do it. I don't really have a good support system. All of my friends and my mom and even my boyfriend is telling me to give the baby up for adoption and I don't know what to do. He's supposed to go to my mom's on christmas eve with me to tell the rest of my family I'm pregnant, but then he just told me today that they're giving him more hours at work and he dosen't know if he can go now. My mother and him live in the same city, I live 50 miles away from them both and I don't have a car. So if he dosen't go, then he can't take me over there. Which means I can't tell my family I'm pregnant. So what do I do? I'm not a bitchy girlfriend, at least, I try not to be. But how should I react to that?
2006-12-06 22:08:59 · update #1
Sweet pea, if he's treating you like this now, it's only going to get worse down the road.
You say you don't need his money, but get a DNA test after your kiddo is born and make him pay child support.
Go find someone else who will treat you the way you deserve to be treated and not like a second class citizen.
-Em
2006-12-06 20:52:33 · answer #1 · answered by emeraldseye 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to be patient. I understand where you are. And my heart goes out to you and him. Sounds like he is overwhelmed with the responsibility. It is a life changing one as you know. You can't make him see what you see. Let him be. Lean on your mom or someone close to you. Give him his space for as long as he needs. Hopefully for you and the baby he will come around . If not then you will understand why by then. He needs to talk am sure. But right now is not the time. As serious as we are about being mothers boys and men are just as serious . Yet they handle in a way at times differently than we would. I know you can understand that because this is overwhelming to you too. Makes you question if you could change your situation right now would you run too? Good luck to all involved. I know you will do what is best for you and that baby. The baby will always come first. Congradulations. I am happy for you.
2006-12-07 05:04:42 · answer #2 · answered by bountyhunter101 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some men are actually physically turned off by pregnancy and he could be one. Before you rush out the door, for the sake of the baby you really must try to talk to him - find out if it is the condition that he is uncomfortable with, rather than you.
You really have to try to get the best out of this situation for the sake of your baby. If the worst comes to the worst and he does not want to be with you, you really will have to pursue him for child support later, for then it will no longer be just about you. I wish you all the very best of luck and good health in your pregnancy.
2006-12-07 04:58:17 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i read most of the answers on here some i agree with and som i don't but my opinion is he is scared and maybe feeling guilty because he don't know how to handle the situation....do have a talk with him and maybe introduce the option of parenting classes ...at very least give him a chance to step up or step out ..either he is going to be a man or a punk...but for the baby's sake reason with him or end as soon as possiabe and find a good dad
2006-12-07 05:05:19 · answer #4 · answered by drop_ur_tops 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u didn't mention how old u r. i do hope ur of age. young people seemed to be in a hurry these days that sometimes they forget about the consequences of their actions. i am not judging but i really am worried because there are guys who think they could do anything they want and just go, they are afraid of the responsiblities that come with their actions but of course it really takes two... so.. maybe you can calmly talk to him and explain everything that you have written. i just hope that this will be the turning point of his life and be a MAN!
2006-12-07 04:58:12 · answer #5 · answered by le mizz 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds to me like he is frightened and confused....talk to him, find out what his feelings are...is he ok with this situation or is it really freaking him out....and btw, you need his emotional support and you and the baby will also need his help financially so get over that silly idea.....buy the book, What to expect when you are expecting....it is really good and will explain what is happening at different times...this will help both of you....good luck and best wishes for a happy healthy baby
2006-12-07 05:02:39 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's not afraid of you, just afraid of the responsibilities he's going to face very soon. If he can't support you then you shouldn't rely on him because guys can be cowards when it comes down to the real thing. Don't let him discourage you. You have lots of people who will support you, like your friends and family.
2006-12-07 04:55:10 · answer #7 · answered by dragonkat24 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
He might be scared or uncertain about things. But, you didn't give much to go on here. Becoming a father is a life changing event for a guy, too. Have you tried expressing your needs to him yet?
2006-12-07 04:55:07 · answer #8 · answered by Michael C. 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He's obviously not ready to be a dad .... seems to me it's frightened the daylights out of him ... but he has to accept responsibility ...
You need to sit quietly with him and ask him what's going on in his head ... keeping things bottled up won't help ... just talk
Good Luck :)
2006-12-07 04:52:22 · answer #9 · answered by deadkelly_1 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
any man that is not even more sexually attracted to the women carrying his baby is in my opinion very sick. You are carrying his child and you need to make him respect that or leave you alpne all together because he is a worthless piece of trash
2006-12-07 04:55:57 · answer #10 · answered by J-Dub 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋