The last wedding I went to had many bad incidents involving children.
1)Infants were crying at various points during the ceremony.
2)Toddlers were talking and shrieking during the ceremony.
3)A 7-year-old was throwing a tantrum in the back.
4)During the reception two kids started running around the dance floor and bumping into people.
2006-12-06 20:18:27 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Cuz the bride and groom are spineless crackheads who can't say no to their families!
Unless the kid is in the wedding party, they should be with a babysitter or nanny.
2006-12-06 20:20:43 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I loved the kids at my wedding. I don't mind it at other weddings either. No matter how much you plan for the perfect wedding ceremony..........IT WILL NOT HAPPEN!
Rather, enjoy the ride. I wanted the fairy tale day, but instead, I got ..............
1. Cake melted due to 100 degree heat
2. Perfect white pumps, bloody swollen feet
3. During the ceremony , I had to pull out my 'blue' handkerchief to wipe the sweat from my face and my betrothed because it was 123 degrees in the church. No air-conditioning.
4. Wedding was delayed a week because a freak torriential rain storm with thunder and lightining canceled out our "perfect" outdoor wedding.
5. Had less family attend due to delay, was a horribly hot day, fiance had gotten previous week off to get married.........was a struggle to get 2 extra days.
6. My dad even accidently ran over our faithful poodle 'Snoopy' when picking up my fiance from work to attend rehearsal! (Snoopy still lived another 6 years).
My GAWD! After reliving all that again, I almost forgot the question!
1. Our nephew was 6. He was the ring bearer. When we bought those patent leather shiny shoes............
I really am too sleepy to type all this.
Our 25th anniversary is in September. Children ,whether part of the ceremony, or just a part of the festivities, are just as important.
It is about family. With all the crisis that happened that day, the children that were in attendance added to the joy.
To you I say...........I am so sorry you don't understand kid's tantrums, crying, shrieking, running about, but when you grow older you appreciate, .......they really are in the moment........more than a grown-up ever is.
Marriage is about family. Family has kids.
2006-12-07 05:27:40 · answer #2 · answered by MOI 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know that personally I was very insulted when my children wern't invited to a family wedding. I am married to a guy who is the youngest of 7 and the youngest by about 12 years...so needless to say our kids are by far the youngest of the grandchildren (ages 3, 5 and 8). When his brother's daughter got married we had assumed that the children would be invited...when the invite came they wern't. We had to drive 14 hours to get to the wedding...we didn't know anyone to babysit...not to mention that our kids didn't know whoever would be babysitting them...so I thought this was a bit rude. My husband was asked to do the toast to the bride...I was asked to do the floral arrangements and they couldn't include our kids. Don't get me wrong...I didn't want them to be flower girls or ring bearers or anything...just to be able to attend. In the end there was a beautiful portarit done of "all the grandchildren" (except ours who wern't there) to be givin to my Husband's mother. It's up on her wall and everytime we go over it hurts me to see that our kids aren't in it. I think that kids should be invited to the wedding if they are part of the family involved and especially if there was considerable effort made to travel to the wedding. That being said I also think that a responsible parent should remove children from the ceremony that are being disruptive.
As for kids running around the dance floor and bumping into people...I've been at a number of weddings where adults who have had to much to drink were bumping into people and running about...so at least with kids you can say "well they're only kids". What excues does a drunken adult have?
Sorry for the rant...just my opinion.
2006-12-07 08:45:41 · answer #3 · answered by cookie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I didn't want any kids, except for my nieces and nephews (they were in the wedding) at my wedding. I didn't want the kids running all over the reception and bumping into people. I know what you mean. I can't stand going to wedding where the kids are out of control. It takes away from you having a good time.
Maybe I was lucky my niece and nephews are good kids, they were well behaved and didn't make a fuss.
2006-12-07 14:48:52 · answer #4 · answered by baadfishii_35 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i had kids at my reception but not my ceremony because those children are a large part of my life, very close friends, family and children i've babysat since they were born. sometimes the bride and groom don't see it as a disruption, because they love the kids...although i do have to say that babies at a wedding ceremony is like babies in a movie theater...not a good idea.
2006-12-07 04:22:55 · answer #5 · answered by Eowyn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have no idea. I would really rather not have them at our wedding. But, my boyfriend says its a must otherwise his nephews and niece won't be able to attend. They are part of the family and should be there. So I will grit my teeth and bare it.
In the future when we have kids of our own, I will be hiring a baby-sitter when we have weddings to attend. This way, we can enjoy a wonderful evening out with our friends and family without having to worry about the kids.
2006-12-07 15:26:43 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I remember being at weddings when i was small and how wonderful and magical it was. I couldn't rob the very few children that might come to the wedding of that adventure.
Especially since we are having a medieval themed wedding in a castle.
2006-12-07 07:56:40 · answer #7 · answered by bushbaby_rsa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because children are obviously part of families, and families get together for the celebration of the wedding. Everyone should be involved from the family, friends, your parish, wider community, etc.
2006-12-07 09:40:21 · answer #8 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When I got married we had a nursery with babysitter during the ceremony
2006-12-07 04:23:05 · answer #9 · answered by clcalifornia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i agree!!! i think they dont really want them but they might just feel that its rude if the would tell their guest to leave their kids at home, and the guest dont mind taking their kids cuz, they got no babysitter and dont know better. are kids really important?? i would inderstand unless they are really close to the couple, i mean does a kid now the importance of a wedding? would they even remember it?
2006-12-07 04:23:01 · answer #10 · answered by zoilaciri 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋