Will you please help me before I die of a broken heart?

Question

How do I forget people from my past? These people I'm referring to are my extended family, former friends and acquaintances. I know that they are definitely not thinking about me but I waste so much energy and time thinking about them and being upset that they don't like me or care about me. I find that I am unable to move on with my life because I can't seem to get a good paying job, can't seem to get new friends and can't seem to find a partner. All this is making me very unhappy. I try to reach out to people but nothing is working.

Answer 1

What helped me was going to church and talking with the pastor. He can pray for you, counsel&guide you. Prayer is so powerful.
Reading "Power of a Praying Woman" by stormie omartian. It brought me peace & confidence in my heart and soul. The Lord is so so good.
Also go to www.doersoftheword.org. There is a toll free # you can call & the pastor there can also cousel you.

I pray the best.

God Bless!

Answer 2

We know the end result, but the events that lead up to this situation are whats most important.

We dont know if they disowned you for a justified reason, at which advice would differ for someone who was banished because of good actions.

So, although I do sympathize with your plight - no person should go through this world with no friends and family -- I wish I could offer some words of comfort -- but I cant do that accurately at this time.

Best advice you could follow is to ask yourself what would you tell your daughter, or a sister, or any loved one -- what would be your advice to them if they asked the same question you just did.
And that will be the best anyone could do for you, I would think.

Hope it helps some

Answer 3

god it makes me so angry inside when I think about the things people have done to me/against me...
the things I will never be able to get back . . .
My blood pressure goes up...everything I can't sleep for like 24 hours.
If I had the solution to your problem I would be happy. All I can do is try to cope and live with it, and deal with it...I do that just by trying to continue on living as best I can , trying not to talk about it, or dig deeper into the problem, even though I cannot help it all the time, I can just TRY NOT to let it bug me or affect me in anyway. I just gotta try and do the best I can FOR ME! Dont get me wrong I am just FRESH at this and so it does affect me and I let it affect me all the time still. I am sure eventually things will get better and maybe even GO AWAY FOR GOOD for both of us, but things take time!

Quite frankly I do not talk to any of the same people I used to, I had to disassociate myself permanently, I had to leave town for 2 years, and then I had to make friends or get to know people ALL OVER again .

Answer 4

I was dumped by someone I loved very much, we had been together for 81/2 years and he decided that he loved someone else more than me ... long story short I left (moved out of town)
and never looked back. I lost all my friends and acquaintances because they all lived in this town and I chose to leave because seeing all of these people,WE hung out with as a couple, made it harder for me.... I GET YOU PAIN..it is very hard to move on.
All I can say is...IT WILL GET BETTER IN TIME! you are in control of your thoughts...you can choose not to think about your pain. Start by allowing yourself to NOT think about your pain for one hour a day.... and then increase the time as you move forward. Meditate, get yourself into counseling for a while until you can cope. (make sure you get someone good) force yourself to get out at least one hour a day to exercise. Eat healthy foods...(if you eat healthy it will make you feel good and lift your spirits) treat yourself to massages and facials...
Don't be so hell bend on finding new friends right now...you need to find happiness within yourself. When I was really down I read a lot of books like "the way of the peaceful Warrior" and it really helped me to understand myself and what I'm going through more.
I send you lots of love and peace in your heart.
BTW: you will never forget the people from your past but you will learn ,over time, to not think about them with so much pain attached to it and you will think less and less about them over time....

Answer 5

Ok, this makes me laugh (not at you of course) bcs i felt this too. But u should realize, that this is people that we're talkin about.PEOPLE.Which means tht even at their best shape( the most respected ppl in the world) the're still prone to mistake.If they're ur family and they don't love u, they r not worth thinkin about.Do u still expect anything from ppl that don't even have love in themselves for their own kind ?! Think about it, no matter what other qualities u might think they have. And really, do u think tht u'd be worth more or less if the most respectable, genius, capable pers in the world would think highly of u?Or u'd be worth more/or less than u do if no one in the world ever appreciated u?the only love/respect/opinion about u, that matters, is ur own. I wish u the best.

Answer 6

All I can say just now is that you cannot and should not rely on other people to make you happy, love. Happiness comes from within, and it can take a lot of work, but it's worth it in the end, trust me :)
It probably wouldn't hurt to talk to a psychologist about your emotional problems. Worked for me.

Answer 7

u have got to get out of your own head, first off get a big empty book with lined paper, now use it sort of like an emotional diary, put the date and time at the top every time u write in it, put everything you feel in it, have a good cry while u write then put the book someplace safe and do something else, keep your feelingsin the book and keep your mind free. worked for me.

Answer 8

Connect with a local women's center or medical clinic and find a counselor. Even on a temporary basis, you can receive fortifying input which you can use to keep yourself on the track you wish to be on.
Don't delay.

Answer 9

some tough love: to get people to want to be your friend, don't say stuff like "you should help me, or i will DIE of a broken heart..." they will run for the hills. no one is well enough that they can save themselves AND someone else.

make a list of things you have to offer to the world and take initiative to give those things to others. give, and then recieve.

Answer 10

Try to concentrate on the people who you know care about you now! The past is the past! I know it's hard to move on!