Would you date a women in a wheelchair?

Question

I was shot and now i'm in a wheel chair it's kind of weird cause before men looked at me all the time but now I'm just the lady everyone runs to get the door for because they just want to nice. I will walk again but I'm lonely now. People tell me I look the same I'm just sitting down so I don't know be honest

Answer 1

i'm a man and i have dated ladies in a chair..but it was hard for me at first afraid i would say or do the wrong thing to up set her...after a while i really found out that they were the same or better than me in a lot of ways ....where most men look at her as disabled or damaged in fear of keeping up alot of problems that she had ...when infact in the beginning i my self was the problem for trying to please her too hard beeing in fear of hurting her so hang in thier for you are a stronger person than most every one else you will meet

Answer 2

Let me start by saying, not only would I date one, I married one over 10 years ago. Her situation is a little different; she has been in a wheelchair all her life. She has mild CP and has problems controlling here muscles. Also a botched surgery on her knees makes it difficult for her to stand without braces that are painful and difficult to use.

I as far as her personality, she is one of the most alive person I ever met. I think that’s what attracted me to her. I am guilty of treating her differently at first. I was afraid she might break or something. But her positive attitude and happy outlook on life makes you forget about the chair. People, who get to know her, learn that she is just like everyone else, and that the only thing that her disability affects is her legs. She even jokes about her situation, poking fun at herself when she says something like, “I ran after her” or “I’d like to kick this computer out the window”.

Its fun looking at how people react to her. It’s almost like their afraid of catching what she has or something. And the real fun comes when an innocent child comes up to her and asks about the chair or “what’s wrong”, you should see the look of horror or embarrassment on the faces of the parent. But she actually welcomes the questions, and hopes she can help people better understand what she is really like.

She doesn’t let anything stop her. She has a collage degree, works full time at a swimming school, (yes she swims too). And best of all she is a brown belt in karate.

You lucky, not because your disability is only temporary, but because you now have a different prospective on life, and will better appreciate what you have.

Answer 3

I'm very happy to hear that you'll walk again. I know I wasn't your target demographic with this question as it was geared more towards men, but I would like to throw my two cents in.

I certainly wouldn't let a wheelchair disuade me from being with a guy I wanted to be with. I think there are plenty of men out there who feel the same about women. Now, let's not kid ourselves. There are also plenty of men, and women, out there who would pass up a potential great partnership because of a wheelchair. Reasons? Maybe they're just looking for a good time in with a 'relationship disguise'. Maybe they know it'll be a little less simple. Maybe they're just plain shallow. Why for sure? I don't know. It's a good bet that when you/if you meet someone in the phase in your life that you are in your wheelchair, he may be someone you might want to really look at as a 'keeper' as he's most likely 'not' some of the things I mentioned above. (Shallow, party only, lazy, etc) Good luck to you though. I wish you nothing but the best in your recovery and in your social life and I expect they'll both go well.

Answer 4

I am sorry for what happened to you. You have had to deal with so much in your life, and you are an inspiration to the rest of us. Yes I certainly would date a woman in a wheelchair. The fact that you are in a wheelchair has nothing to do with whether a guy should like you or not. He should like you because you are intelligent,because of his physical attractiveness to you, because of your heart and your spirit and because of the shared interests you both share. I am glad that you will walk again. I am sure you can find a man who will look past your wheelchair and see all of the beautiful things about you. Best wishes to you.

Answer 5

I'm sorry about your accident. I am sure that there are plenty of men who would date a woman in a wheelchair. I asked a guy in a wheelchair out before.

Answer 6

i would date you

Answer 7

Well, that's a tricky one for me. Unfortunately I'm tall, and dating short women becomes a hastle sometimes because I have to lean over to kiss and such things......lol na I'm just kidding, I believe that love exists between two people for just that reason, two people. It doesn't matter about what they look like, or their situation. Plus, having a GF in a wheelchair might actually be cool for once, because I like to be really goofy, so I could sit on her lap and we could roll down a ramp together and crash at the bottom and just laugh about it. Although, I would probably get carried away on pranks (I can't help it), there would be no difference in the relationship.

Answer 8

Hey!!!beauty is just skin deep...If im a man definitely i will look for a partner who will also love me in return no matter if she's deaf or mute...as long as we can get along...and to be in a wheelchair will really test your partners patience..True Love will really come out if your partner will stay by your side till the end of time...take care!! and smile always okey?

Answer 9

I would, whats the difference?
I run to get the door for all women anyways.
Beauty is in the person (just like we were all
told before), but don't think of yourself as
being any different than before the shot.

Answer 10

Especially Angelina Jolie. With the handicapped sticker you could park like crazy.