Been seeing a girl for over a year, I love her, but she has cheated on me many times, the last time being only 3 months ago. I.m finding it difficult to cope with and have told her we should have a break for a while to see what we really want. I miss her, she's trying to change, she has problems. My minds all over....any advice anyone?
2006-12-06 19:37:23 · 35 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If I were you I would go back to her, knowing that she will cheat on me again sooner or later. But if you can’t be happy away of her, what is more important, your happiness or what she is doing when you are not together? “Cheating” is a relative term. Love is one thing, sex is another. I don’t see something really wrong with that “cheating”.
2006-12-06 19:49:46 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
this is one of those incredibly hard things to decide upon in life. And it seems like there is so much advice towards this situation. i have always thought in the past what would i do. and it really just depends on the person that u r with.
look at the pros and cons of Ur relationship. apart from the cheating r things great? do u love each other- equally?even if it means having a break from each other for awhile To really see what u want in Ur life, if she is apart of it, or do u see some one else in it instead. love is an amazing thing!
have a good talk together after a while, maybe u will find that u both need something else.or u realise that love can conqure all.
this is not an easy thing, and in the long run u need to decide for yourself as to what is best for u. if u think she will keep on cheating, then..... maybe she isn't ready for a commitment and wants to go and "play the field". think what is best for u and Ur heart, there's only so many times u can forgive the same thing.
if u do split up now doesnt mean that in the future u cant get together again, nothing is definate. let love be.
all the best and i hope things work out for the best. X
2006-12-06 21:34:22 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
It is hard to break away from some people, they just have a appeal but like giving up any addiction the best thing for you is sometimes hard to do and it sounds like this girl isn't good for you.
Your only a year in which may seem like a long time but if things feel hard now imagine if she got pregnant. Firstly there would be the doubt to whether the baby was yours and even if the child was your son or daughter would you want to bring them into such a unstable enviroment? Before things get more complicated I would leave now. I use to run a bar and I saw this every weekend. Not eveyone is the same but from what I've seen people very rarely change.
Good luck
2006-12-06 19:41:35 · answer #3 · answered by scott e 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sorry bud, she's cheated more than once which strongly suggests to me that 1( she'll do it again & 2) she is not completely happy with something...it may be you, perhaps she feels like she's not getting everything she needs from you. Alternatively it could be her, maybe she's been taken for a ride before and is now taking out on you. It's hard to analyse the situation without knowing the 2 people concerned.
The only people that can really sort this out is the 2 of you.
2006-12-06 19:54:56 · answer #4 · answered by sunshine_honey69 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If your really looking for someone to be honest then, I'll tell you leave her and I don't think I need to sit here and tell you why I'm 100% sure you know why.
If your looking for sympathy or someone to tell you what you want to hear like to forgive her nope your not getting it from me!!
This is a done deal your relationship is going nowhere worth going. Get out now you already did the first step don't go back.
2006-12-06 19:43:53 · answer #5 · answered by calimexgirl!! 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Forgiving her is a good idea.
Honestly, you need someone better than that. Someone who only cares for you and not go all over with other men. What kind of relationship is that? Especially since AIDS and STD's are high now. Is it worth the risk to catch something from her?
Something to think about. :)
The choice is yours!
2006-12-06 19:40:08 · answer #6 · answered by Nikki 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
have a break away go out and sort your head and have some fun and see what happens, but its not the first time soooo be care full if she loved you she would not hurt you honestly if i were you i would move on enjoy life and think the Xmas season is about us so people are going to be in the party mood and wont want you tagging along if your miserable so go and enjoy life go for it
good luck
2006-12-06 19:43:37 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Your situation is NOT going to get any better anytime soon. Whilst SHE is being used as a mattress by all and sundry--YOU are being used as a carpet by her. Bin this bint and move on,it is no good for you,and if it hasn't stopped cheating by now,it never will do...you deserve much better...kick it to the kerb, before you get REALLY hurt.
2006-12-06 20:06:34 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Once a cheater, always a cheater. She knows you'll come back to her no matter how hard she stomps on your heart.
My first marriage ended in divorce because of his cheating. I found out about one chick, forgave him and took him back, then within a few months found out about 3 more!! So he was out the door and I haven't looked back since!
Leave her and save yourself the heartache babe!
2006-12-06 19:40:36 · answer #9 · answered by ~ Amanda ~ 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Get rid of her a leopard never changes her spots.If a man hits a woman they say he could never change,so why would a serial cheat change,you`ll only end up tormenting yourself.
2006-12-06 19:48:18 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋