i just got married 3 months back... my husband stayed here with me till one month.. then he left to other country where he do job... my mother in law is not fair with me... she always creates fuss just becouse she cant keep me in her control... she wants me to be in control of her.. she want me not to take even a single decisions of myself .. i have to ask permision from her for every small thing... & my husb tell me to obey her.. the problem is she is not fair with me. I take permision from her for everything as they want.. but still she do my complains to my husband by calling him when she feels that iam not in her control... THE MAIN PROBLEM IS my husband believes his mother more than me !!! to support his mother he can even tell lie to me ! i have seen that.. and also i have proof of it with me ! But these things are spoiling our relationship.. TELL ME WHAT SHOULD I DO.. so that .. the relation between my husband and me should not spoil....
2006-12-06 19:21:04 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
i cant go where my husband is because my studies are going on here... and i'm staying with his mother
2006-12-06 19:31:41 · update #1
I looked at the answer before mine and it sounds good,try to make a friend of her. Give it,say,3 months, tell her that you are now a woman and her son's wife, and you wish to have her help on some things, but you also now have to make your own life with her son. Be sweet but firm. Take some of her advice, but also show her you are not scared or over awed by her, and for the important things, do them YOUR way. Tell your husband that this new life is hard for you for a while and that he must support you. Good luck sweetheart :)
2006-12-06 20:02:20 · answer #1 · answered by Juliette 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you are married to your mother in law. And you are very young and naive for the way that you write your story and I can tell. Anyways. You need to stand for your rights, your husband doesn't owns you and your mother in law needs a wake up call from you. Draw your line, mark your territory, and set your limits with her and your husband. If you don't do it now, in one year you will be living like a slave, being abused by those two freaks. If you want to save your marriage, you have to move out of that house and live separate with your husban. Your mother in law is toxic. And of course that she will spoil your marriage. But you are in charge of your life and the decision lies in your hand. Decide what to do, to live the rest of your life like a lamb or to be respected and loved and in charge of your own life. Good luck and one tip, next time when your mother in law mess with you give her a broom and tell her HERE YOU HAVE WITCH, START FLYING OUT OF MY LIFE!!!
2006-12-06 19:33:28 · answer #2 · answered by MayanPrincess@sbcgglobal.net 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'd suggest that...you may either leave the house of your mother-in-law or you need to talk with her regarding that matter...
...for a husband and wife it would be better if you'll be having your own house than staying with your original family because if this is not the case there will be conflicts between your own family and the other...
..talk to her you'll never know she might change...
2006-12-06 20:50:23 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your husband should always put you first before anyone ......He is a idiot for not standing up to his mother ....If i were you i would tell him that if he does not stand behind you and put a stop to his mother bullying you that you will get a separation......Please Please stay on the pill do not get pregnant until you are best friends with your husband.......Good Luck
2006-12-06 19:27:33 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i do no longer understand what way of existence you belong to, yet this occasion in simple terms would not sound precise or basic. You married the guy to be with him, to no longer be his mom's slave. He could desire to be completely in his mothers administration too, or he could arise for you. i've got self assurance sorry for you because of the fact i do no longer understand if this occasion is hopeful, yet whats up that's the 21st century and in case you do no longer arise for your self, no person else will. If I have been you i could threaten to pass away him if he would not tell mom to lower back off. regrettably you could could desire to persist with with the aid of, yet a minimum of you're able to make the attempt to maintain your marriage first. sturdy success.
2016-12-18 09:01:32 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had the same problem. discuss with your husband and come out seperately.By coming out of Joint family, will help solve all your problems. Try this. you will appreciate my words of advice.
2006-12-06 19:31:36 · answer #6 · answered by nagas r 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try to manage with your mother in law , try to make her yr freind and not yr enemy .
do what you want but make her feel that this what she wants
2006-12-06 19:45:50 · answer #7 · answered by stranger 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋