ok guys, here's the deal. i've been with my this gf for over 2 years now. this july, she went over to aussy to further her studies. at 1st its fine, but when time goes by, she get to know a lot guy frenz and she would tell me she's going ktv with her frenz, you know stuffs like dat. i am actually quite a paranoid person. very insercure to be exact. i keep thinking negative things, like she's flirting with other guys. maybe she does, maybe she doesnt, but i juz couldnt trust her totally. she cheated on me once b4, but its juz those online bf that they used to call and chat and sms but has never met up.
anyway the point is that i cant seem to trust a gal completely, is there sth wrong with me? or it cuz i've been cheated b4, so tats y? (my ex gf sort of cheated on me as well)
is there anyway dat i could help myself?
2006-12-06 19:12:01 · 5 answers · asked by sulaji84 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
First of all, I don't think you need to see a psychologist.
To other people you may seem very insecure, jeolous or whatever but I think it is just your personality. Some people find it harder than others to handle certain situations and this is obviously due to you being cheated on before. I definetly don't think you are going crazy or anything, you just have really strong feelings for a girl and it's great that you actually have someone to care about that much.
If you feel like you need some guidance or even just someone to talk to, you could go and see a counsillor or find a close friend to talk to.
In the meantime, you are currently in a long distance relationship and if she is gonna cheat, she'll do it and there is absolutely nothing you can do about it. That is not your problem, it will be on her conscience.
I think you need to find something else to keep your mind busy and try not to think about her too much (I know it's hard). If and when she does come back, if you guys decide to continue the relationship that's great but incase she doesn't want that anymore, maybe you should try to have fun and go out with friends while your apart too.
2006-12-06 19:33:53 · answer #1 · answered by miss2sexc 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
no you dont need to see a psychologist, you have hopefully told her that youve been cheated on before so she understands where your comein from, make plans to go see her and stuff, its kinda natural to be a lil paranoid about such a thing even without havein it happen to you before, but besure she knows about that
2006-12-07 03:15:19 · answer #2 · answered by kydd 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry but i can see why girls cheat on you. You always asking, where were you? who were you with? can get annoying and some girls instead of just breaking up cheat. (which i see as wrong)
Being paranoid is not sexy girls like confedence. step up be a man and stop being a whiny pussie.
2006-12-07 03:16:55 · answer #3 · answered by Atllas 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
you just seem to have bad luck at picking gfs. you're good a picking ones that will cheat. just try to pick one that seems like she won't cheat on you.
2006-12-07 03:17:55 · answer #4 · answered by Zenobia 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
trust her and no u dont need to go see one
2006-12-07 03:15:31 · answer #5 · answered by gamea99 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋