there is this girl Lucy...shes in england and planning to get married soon.I'm in oz and I love her so much..we are good friend ...but I love her and i want to be with her...should I tell her how I feel?
2006-12-06 19:06:46 · 42 answers · asked by Peter L 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think you dont tell her! I think Its time to Move on..maybe she knows there issomething you feel for her...and trust me girls know. I mean she still moved away to england and she got on with life there. You going to make her life a mess if you do tell her now. It will hurt because you cant be 2gether but hey maybe after a while it will work out for the good.. maybe they will break up and then she will ask for you...you guys are freinds and I bet she loves you as one. Let her go!
2006-12-06 19:15:50 · answer #1 · answered by Lucy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd say . . . yes. If you don't you would be taking away the opportunity of information for choice from Lucy. And...you need to remove the 'what if' wonder from your mind and heart today and for years in the future. Have the courage to possibly being embarrassed or hurt . . . knowledge and awareness is worth it. Also, do this for any other 'sweetie' in your future (if this Lucy issue does not pan out). If you don't do this, and Lucy marries another, you go on to meet someone else, that wonder about Lucy might still be there and that's not fair to any 'sweetie' in your future.
2006-12-06 19:14:42 · answer #2 · answered by onelight 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there are different levels of love do you get those butterflies when you speak to her or see her do you wonder what she is doing every minute of the day does she feel the same do you know, telling her could ruin your relationship or it could bring you together do you risk losing her forever or do you settle for having her love as a friend for ever this is so tough for you have a really good think i hope it goes well for you good luck
2006-12-06 20:43:43 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. So you unburden your mind.. avoid the 'what ifs' for years to come. What's in it for her? She's getting married - do you think you can do better than her fiance? You can't. She loves him. Leave the two of them alone and don't try to ruin it. You'll lose her even as a friend if you do this and cause her unneccessary hurt.
2006-12-06 19:14:25 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is obviously getting married because she wants to and unless it is an arranged marriage she needs saving from I would suggest you don't tell her as it may cause your friendship to become uncomfortable for her, hence ruining it and then you wouldn't have her in your life at all
2006-12-06 19:27:53 · answer #5 · answered by scott e 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say go for it because this could be your last chance. but dont be like I LOVE YOU marry me marry me! just let her know that you need to talk and then tell her how you really feel.
dont pressure her. just be there for her and be caring.
But i say go for it
Good Luck In Love
2006-12-06 19:09:33 · answer #6 · answered by Atllas 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you tell lucy how you feel,things may not turn out how you want them to,is she happy with her fiance? if she is will it be worth telling her that you love her you may just loose her freindship.
just ask her if she is happy,if she aint then tell her how you feel,she will appreciate your honesty,you never know she may just feel the same, i wish you all the best let us know how things go!
2006-12-06 22:05:33 · answer #7 · answered by NEIL C 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her... best you do so now, before the marriage. What if she's been waiting for you and decided to go ahead because she lost hope with you?... You'll never know unless you try, and its too hard living with WHAT IF's...
2006-12-06 20:06:23 · answer #8 · answered by Sugar 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say tell her - write her a letter so you can express yourself properly. chances are she wont change her mind but if you DONT tell her you'll live with WHAT IF??? for the rest of your life!!! But be prepared for the fact that she 99% wont dump her fiance and come running - she has made her decision. for your sanity - I would tell her.
2006-12-06 19:09:42 · answer #9 · answered by supagrrrl84 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't tell her anything. Continue your friendship and sooner or later you'll have her. Marriage kills love, didn't you know?
A woman marries a man expecting he will change, but he doesn't.
A man marries a woman expecting that she won't change, and she does.
2006-12-06 19:13:56 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋